Intimacy with Strangers, and Friends...for the over 40's

Intimacy with Strangers, and Friends.

We can all feel like strangers, whether we have known someone for a few minutes, or years!

Intimacy only takes place with connection, trust (in yourself and others) and feeling safe. Intimate connections can last a minute or a lifetime. This is an evening for the over 40's, i won't be checking birth certificates, to explore and discover their own boundaries in a mainly non verbal way.

With Intimacy with Strangers we are looking to discover intimacy in a safe, playful, and held space, where you can explore your boundaries at your own speed, gaining insight into the felt process of saying yes and no with your body. We are exploring body language but more in the felt sense, and we are exploring ours and others body language without chasing any prescriptive outcomes. There is a natural evolution during the evening learning how you feel at this particular time, in this particular space, with these particular people. Conscious connection is something that is difficult to put into words. Participants are welcome to explore as much, or as little as they feel comfortable with.

‘The felt presence of immediate experience, this is all you know, everything else comes as unconfirmed rumour.’ Terence McKenna

I have deliberately not expanded on things, or made this too wordy, these evenings are experiential and as such really need as few words as possible to avoid muddying the waters. We could talk Tantra, or any other mystical or esoteric practice but the principle is still the same, me I come more from a Taoist, Zen, East End approach. People like to be touched, and to touch, physical connection is an innate drive/need and under all the social and cultural conditioning we are just animals looking to make our way through this world. Being human I'm not a great fan of with the world as it is at present, but people, now there is a different story, and one we can play out for this evening. So for tonight we should take some inspiration from my 3 dogs and just be in the moment for whatever arises, as people.

There are Tantric influences in this workshop/event, plus hints of Taoism, the pragmatism of Zen, somatic work, but very much a conscious sexuality evening.

There will be a slow build up for the first 2 hours with partner and group work, and time to explore what feels right at your own pace, also some conscious touch and felt boundary exercises to start. As an experiential experience, the more these are repeated and practiced, the more you will learn to trust yourself to express your yes and no, and recognise others without words. This will not change your life, but it might add a little more belief and trust in people and yourself. The last 2 hours of the evening are for you to express yourselves in any way that feels right, using some of the tools you will have learnt earlier.

There will be 2 massage couches available in the open second half of the evening, and some suggested themed areas for people to explore. I will be holding space and available for any advice or inspiration. We will have a short closing ceremony to finish.

We are going to step over societal boundaries at your own pace.

‘Love doesn’t demand conformity. Love offers freedom’. J. Krishnamurti

The title Intimacy with Strangers, and some ideas, are taken from my good friend Miki Fossati and his work Intimacy with Strangers: An Exploration of the Soul

Dress… clothing for moving in..feel free to express yourself in any way you please..be you, express you.

I will try to keep a positive balance in favour of women, this is a space for women to express themselves with no pressure

Couples you need to be prepared to work separately at times

Men I will vet you if I don't know you or you aren't recommended by someone i know, ( a pain i know but we have done ourselves no favours) so please contact me in the first instance via WhatsApp on 07830 509665

Hosted by Sean with assistance:

Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Barbara Carrellas Urban Tantra Practitioner, Dark Tantra, conscious sexuality & kink practitioner, qualified in tantric/sensual massage. Former registered Osteopath BSc (Hons) Ost Med 1998, Cranial Osteopath post graduate qualifications. Trauma aware, and triggered by the word 'juicy" when not applied to fruit!

intimateconsent.co.uk

info@intimateconsent.co.uk

Mob: 07830 509665

Venue is Anatomie Studio, Unit113, 17 Station Passage. SE15 2JR

Queens Road Station is just a few minutes away, and there is plenty of free local parking.

This is a Conscious Sexuality event so all expressions of your sexuality are welcome. We will supply some safer sex materials but feel free to bring your own, nothing is obligatory. If you are new to these spaces i strongly recommend you look up Boundary and consent work, I recommend you google Betty Martins Wheel of Consent.

I'm not going to tell you not to drink, or take drugs, I trust you as adults not to turn up pissed or 'out of it', if I suspect you are you will be asked politely to leave.

I will email all attendees a few days before the event with any final details