Something I’m continuing to learn about is when to see the 🚩red flags 🚩with someone sooner in the beginning—- even before having those in-depth thorough conversations towards the beginning of connection that my *Clarity Conversations for Empowered Relationships* e-book provides, and *choosing to leave the connection or shift the connection when I see them.
Red flags in my experience can mean two things:
1. Walk away because there will be a lot of discord via disagreement around core values, core mindsets or core needs.
2. There’s a point that you and that other person need to discuss to make sure you get on the same page before continuing forward.
In order for relationships to succeed— it’s imperative to be in general mutuality around values, how to talk to each other, how to disagree with each other, how to support each other and how to repair with each other.
Both people can have different needs around all these aspects, but clarity, care and commitment around them for self and other are required from both people for a relationship to be truly successful and long-lasting.
It’s when this doesn’t exists that relationships get funky…
Part of understanding what red flags are for you is knowing your boundaries.
🚩On Boundaries 🚩boundaries are ideally what bring me closer to you, not push you away from me. They’re what I need respect, specificity and care around to feel close to you.
Here are some basic questions to ask yourself in relation to boundaries:
🌸 what am I feeling in my body right now?
🌸 what emotions am I experiencing?
🌸 what am I needing right now?
🌸 what am I needing that I’m maybe not getting right now (and why do I need it)?
🌸 How can I express my need in a way that is accurate and caring (and ideally inclusive of another persons need)?
Want more support and practice to boost your boundaries and address red flags sooner?
Want help in understanding more yours and anothers boundaries and how to resepct them better?
Want to learn how to better use language and communication to state what you need but also be caring of yoruself and others?
Join this upcoming 🚩Boundaries Boosting Workshop 🚩 series!
Hope to see you there :)
