The Feels WKNDR SF 2026

// about \\

We have spent 4 years at the frontlines of modern dating: researching, writing, hosting, coaching, matchmaking, studying, conversing, facilitating, guiding.

From time spent, we have concluded that modern dating is broken.

Further - we believe that technology + relating do not go together; AI-driven dating apps are coming for you, and we want to stop them.

To do that, we seek to rewire how we’re pairing off, how we’re showing up for each other, and we teach new tools for staying nervous system regulated.

It goes without saying that if any of this resonates, we’d really like to host you for a 2 day event that will:

• Help you better understand the current modern dating landscape + how we arrived into this moment, so you can see its not your fault;
• Guide you into being more connected to your own inner systems of knowing - thoughts, emotions, body, inner wisdom/intuition;
• Give you real-life tools for better meets + better dates + more vulnerable connects;
• Send you out on a date w a fellow participant to practice new tools in real time;
• Drop you into embodied connection w your fellow participants, to imprint into your body what safe connection feels like;
• Leave you with a crew of ppl who feel like your people.

//curriculum\\

We will shift between instructional / didactic learning, and real-time experiential learning via 1:1 + group embodiment activities.

Day 1 topics will include:

• Collectivism vs individualism + the effect on your dating life;
• The Evo Psych narrative + dropping agenda;
• Technology’s role in corroding healthy human connection;
• Wounds, shadows, armouring + how they show up in dating;
• Projection + transference;
• Somatics 101;
• The nervous system: down regulation + co-regulation.

Day 2 topics will include:

• Patterning + how to map new neural pathways;
• Attachment 101;
• RBDSM-A + the diff bt the erotic + sexual;
• Boundaries, consent + healthy touch;
• Cultivating attunement;
• The ‘why’ of slow dating;
• On community + what it is + is not.

//some things to know\\

• We will be providing lunch both days;
• Payments are non refundable, but transferable;
• The Fold is ADA accessible;
• Street parking is available;
• We work hard to ensure balance when it comes to gender;
• Pair’d work will be oriented towards M/F pairs;
• You must be 21+ to attend;
• We gently suggest 60 or under as an age guideline;
• Programming will run from 10 - 5p each day;
• We ask that you keep from 5-7p on Saturday (8/15) open.