Hit Me Up is New York City’s curated community for poly and kink. We run mixers, classes, parties, and more from our venue in Lower Manhattan. We also teach kink and run events with our partners at House of Yes, Dances of Vice, Torture Garden and other venues and collaborators around the city.

We got our start running small events for our friends that quickly outgrew multiple venues. Now we are working to build the kink and poly community that NYC deserves—safer, friendlier, and weirder.

Our parties originated in 2017. Hit Me Up NYC was officially founded in 2020. We opened a space of our own in early 2023. If you need a rental space in lower manhattan for any type of event, feel free to get in touch via https://joinhitmeup.com/venue/.

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What is Hit Me Up?

Our core value at Hit Me Up is that poly and kink should be FUN. We balance accessibility and friendliness with a selective approach to membership to ensure that we get to hang out and play in the community we want to exist. Safety and respect are the only things we always take seriously.

Why is Hit Me Up different?

Our rules are actually enforced. If we say there’s a dress code, we will actually turn away anyone who doesn’t put in the effort to follow it. See our full consent policy for more details. We don’t oversell our events. There will always be space to breathe, to get away, and to get into what you’re into. Aggressive, cruising, and abusive behavior are dealt with quickly. Complaints and reports get action. We will never choose an extra ticket sale over risk to our members.

We are the guardians of the community, the space and the vibe, and we take that responsibility seriously. All of these things add up, and we think it shows in our membership and the incredible and weird things that can happen at our events.