Today more than ever we need better, longer conversations about sex, love, and relationships.

For the first time in human history, we have the luxury of living our best sexual lives, and we have a million questions about how to get there. Yet the taboo and misinformation surrounding sex make it very difficult to have the necessary heart-to-heart conversations. The segregation into our own little echo-chambers makes hearing diverse perspectives even more difficult. And a pandemic forcing us into geographical isolation makes genuine human connection more elusive than ever.

How do we build the sex life we crave? Where do we find others who want the same things? How do we figure out what others want or where their boundaries lie? What’s politically correct in today’s constantly shifting social climate? How do we keep ourselves and our partners safe from diseases, pregnancies, assault, rejection? How do we heal from difficult experiences? Can we be really wild and still be healthy and loved? Why do we want the things we want in bed in the first place? Are we normal? Can we change?

These are some of the most important questions you’ll ever have a chance to ask yourself. And I can’t think of a better way to get some insight and clarity than to come discuss them openly and honestly with other thoughtful, interesting people from different backgrounds and experiences. That is why I'm launching a series of group Zoom events where we tackle thought-provoking, controversial, misunderstood, even challenging questions in a two-way conversational format. Each 120-minute conversation will focus on a specific topic and will go in whichever direction we take it.

Oh, and the best part? It’s pay-what-you-can. Contribute as much as you can, and as much as this experience is worth it to you.

Upcoming Dates & Topics (see bottom for more dates, topics, and details)

Jan 16, 1pm ET. The Grey Zone of sexual consent

Jan 21, 7pm ET. Cuckholding & Hotwifing

Jan 27, 7pm ET. Celibacy and Virginity

Woman, man, cis, trans, nonbinary, queer, straight, virgin, slut, monogamous, polyamorous, swinger, cheater, cheated-on, kinky, vanilla, sex worker, client of sex workers, survivor of trauma, perpetrator of trauma, young, old, rich, poor, liberal, conservative, white, person of color, religious, nonreligious… Everyone is welcome. We can all learn from each other.

I’ll share my own thoughts and experiences, ask the audience questions, and provide as much encouragement, moderation, and fact-checking as is necessary to have an engaging and respectful discussion. You are welcome to participate as much or as little as you’d like. You can keep your camera on or off. Use your real name, or a pseudonym. Share with us your pronouns, or not. No judgment either way.

Please note: This is a safe space…for uncensored conversations. Abuse will not go unaddressed. But I can’t promise your feelings won’t be triggered.

The Zoom conversations will be recorded and the recordings will be used for a future podcast, article, or other uses. If you can’t attend live, buy a ticket and you'll receive the audio recording after the event!

I can’t wait to chat with all of you!

Dr. Zhana

For more info about me, go to my website: drzhana.com.

Upcoming dates and topics

Saturday, January 16, 2021, 12-2pm ET. The Grey Zone of sexual consent

Thursday, January 21, 2021, 7-9pm ET. Cuckholding & Hotwifing

Wednesday, January 27, 2021, 7-9pm ET. Celibacy and Virginity

Tentative dates/topics (subject to change)

Feb 6. (daytime) Anal play / Pegging

Feb 11. Street attention

Feb 16. Sex after sexual trauma?

Feb 24. Double penetration

Mar 2. Coming out as queer / kinky / poly

Mar 7. (daytime) Can drunken sex be consensual?

Mar 16. Trans or nonbinary folks

Mar 24. Should we cheat every now and then?

Mar 30. How much porn is too much?

Apr 6. Sex and psychedelics

Apr 11. (daytime) What to do about pedophilia?

Apr 20. Friendship (with benefits) after breakup?

Apr 27. Should I tell people I have herpes?

May 6. Do you like to be sexually objectified?

May 15. (daytime) Are men selfish in bed?

May 20. Do you need a verbal yes 100% of the time?

May 26. Sex in older age

June 1. How to deal with a negative sexual experience?

How to open up a monogamous relationship?

Do men like to be dominated?

Am I normal?

How to orgasm?

Dealing with sexual stigma and shame

Past dates & topics (email me if you want to purchase the audio recording)

#1. Dec 3. Intimacy in casual sex

#2. Dec 9. Squirting! (with special guest Kenneth Play) (no recording for this one)

#3. Dec 16. Disclosure: How much to tell my partner about others?

#4. Dec 20. Open relationships.

#5. Dec 29. Sex Under Power Dynamic

#6. Jan 7. Sex work