The Respect My Red Leadership Institute on Respectful Relationships and Ending Sexual Violence

Philadelphia (1hr) NYC (2.5hrs) Baltimore (2 hrs) DC (3 hrs) Pittsburg (4 hrs)

Join student leaders and advisors at Kutztown University on Monday, April 17, 2017 for an engaging, inspirational and educational conference to address sexual misconduct.

Learn the latest laws. Train to engage your peers. Participate in an interactive peer theatre and jury exercise.

This 1-day conference is intense and challenging. Learn how to effect culture change with primary prevention and bystander intervention. Obtain curricula and instructional skills for students from age 10 to 21--plus parents, faculty and other adults. Learn how to create or invigorate a peer leadership and mentoring program. Understand how we can leverage social media and messaging. Understand current quantitative and qualitative research supported strategies.

Learn what works well to engage each learner, to include a variety of religious values, diverse perspectives, gender identities, races, gender roles, and more. Leave with a Plan, the Tools and the Skills.

Pre-K to higher education. Private or public. Large or small. Religious or nondenominational. Urban or rural. Greek organizations. Military bases. Athletic programs. Respect My Red has options for each. Be ready to implement as soon as you get back home.

Essential Tools for Highly Effective Bystander and Educational Programs.

Learning Outcomes Include:

• Grasp changes in laws and definitions over the last decade.
• Train on a comprehensive up-stander program with ready-to-use curricula.
• Understand definitions and manifestations of technology-related sexual assault, harassment, consent, incapacitation, alcohol-related issues, sexual exploitation, relationship abuse, stalking, dating violence and more.
• Receive an analysis of your current presentation skills and knowledge with feedback on how to improve. Repeated practice and skill building.
• Utilize research supported methods to educate students, including integration into existing curricula and developmentally appropriate content for students of all ages, genders, religious affiliations, socio-economic backgrounds, and sexual orientations.
• Read more about our Faculty and Curriculum at www.schoolpolicyinstitute.org.
  

Who should attend? Student Leaders, Wellness Educators, Counselors, and Advisors from PK-12, colleges, and universities of all kinds: public and private; religiously affiliated and nondenominational; commuter and residential; large and small; urban and rural; two year and four year; charter and boarding.

Recommended: Send a team of a sophomore, junior, and senior with 2 advisors.

Concurrent Event: The Policy Institute for School Administrators

Schedule: Monday, April 17, 2017

12:00-1:00pm: Check-in.

1:00-1:15pm: Opening Remarks and Institute Orientation

Dr. Pedro Rivera, Pennsylvania's Secretary of Education; Katie Koestner, President of COS; President and/or Provost, Kutztown University

1:15-2:00pm: Interactive Case Study: He Said-She Said

Listen as two students describe a night of partying and sexual interaction. This case serves as the day’s foundation.

Grab a light snack and conference divides into two groups for Policy Institute and Respect Red Leadership Training.

2:10-3:00pm: KNOWLEDGE Session: Essential Definitions, Policies, and Laws

What is a healthy relationship? What is abuse? What is consent and what is not consent? How do alcohol and other drugs affect relationships and our bodies? Do you know what the difference is between incapacitated and drunk? Or, what is coercion and what is persuasion? Who is responsible for risk reduction?

Topics:

• Healthy Relationships vs. Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse
• Sexual exploitation, harassment, stalking
• Sexual assault and rape
• Same-sex sexual assault
• Technology-related sexual misconduct (sexting)
• Criminal vs. civil vs. school definitions

3:00-3:50pm: ATTITUDE Session: Where Do You Stand?

Are you biased? Would you know it if you were? How strongly do you feel about an issue and why? How does this impact your ability to be an effective leader? More specifically, what are common attitudes about relationships, respect and substance use? Do you go along to get along?

Topics:

• Where do we obtain our attitudes? Media, parents, peers?
• Rape myths and victim blaming
• Bias based on gender, sexuality, religion, age, economic status, race, and more
• What is normal vs. what is “over the line”?
• How can we change the attitudes of others?
• How do we shift the NORM and perception of the NORM?

4:00-4:50pm: BEHAVIOR Session: It’s not what you say; it’s what you DO that counts.

How do we impact what people choose to do? How do we set the standard for Respect?

Topics:

• Why do people say one thing and do another?
• What are the real ways to bring about changes in behavior?
• What works best for various ages, genders, religious backgrounds, and other demographic variables?
• How can I create an environment that reduces the likelihood of disrespectful behaviors?
• What does respectful treatment of others look like? What is the goal?
• How can I be thoughtful about various beliefs and values regarding sexuality and relationships?

5:00-6:00pm: BYSTANDER Session: How BOLD are you?

Are you really comfortable taking a public stand on an issue? What motivates you to fight the fire yourself vs. wait for the firetruck to arrive? What’s the difference between being labeled a tattletale vs. a hero? When should we get help in addressing concerning behavior? Learn when to involve parents, legal counsel, and criminal authorities. Understand how bystanders are truly the norm-setters in any community.

Topics:

• Assess your philosophical approach: Educational vs. Disciplinary.
• What is a bystander vs. an up-stander?
• What are approaches for students vs. adults?
• When is it best to confront one on one vs. in a group?
• How should you approach an alleged victim vs. alleged perpetrator?
• Cultural sensitivity and international student issues
• Developmental models for all ages

6:00-7:00pm: Dinner with New Friends

7:00-8:00pm: Keynote: “No-Yes: The Empowering Story of Katie Koestner”

Katie Koestner was on the cover of TIME Magazine as the first woman in history to publicly speak out about being a victim of date rape. She has shared her personal story with over 5 million students. She addresses sexual assault, respect, consent, healthy decision-making, and alcohol, while inspiring students to become active bystanders in your community. To both educate and inspire at the same time can be a challenge, but this is exactly what Katie accomplishes with her program. Katie shares her story as she weaves in key information about sexual assault and stories from survivors and upstanders as she has traveled the country. Katie shares a message of courage through her personal story that goes well beyond the hour after her program. Her audiences remember her words, her strength and her conviction. They incorporate her examples into their next steps in life.

8:00-9:00pm: Workshop Choice

How to Help a Survivor: From Hurt to Healing: What should you say or do to help someone who confides in you about their victimization? What is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder? What have hundreds of survivors said that helped them the most?

Activism for Any Age and Any Stage: What can you do to foment change within your community? What are options and success stories. Learn about how social justice works and doesn’t work depending on the strategy and deployment. This workshop is for those who seek to make things better at any age.

Respect My Red Institute Resource Kit: The Respect My Red Resource Kit is available to attendees online as a password protected link when you add this to your attendance registration. The link will be sent electronically to the email address you provided during your registration. At this link you will find the Respect My Red resources, curricula and other tools.