I'm Just Not Into You

THE REAL PROBLEM ISN'T ONLINE DATING

You've been told that online dating is dangerous.
That apps are just for hookups.
That you'll meet serial killers, narcissists, and con artists if you swipe right.

Here's the truth nobody's telling you:

You can meet a narcissist at church.
A con artist through mutual friends.
An emotionally unavailable person at a book club.

The problem has never been WHERE you meet people.

The problem is that you don't know what you're actually looking for—so you accept whatever (and whoever) shows up.

The problem is that somewhere along the way, you decided your light was "too much." So you dimmed it. Made yourself smaller. More agreeable. Less "intimidating."

The problem is that you've been asking:

• "Why isn't he texting back?"
• "What did I do wrong?"
• "Am I being too picky?"

When you should be asking:

"Am I even into HIM/HER?"