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Everything You Need to Know About Tipping in the Modern Age

From bartenders to Uber drivers, here's the definitive guide on who to tip and how much to give.

Thanks to apps that find people to drive us around, deliver our food, and bring us our booze, tipping etiquette in the modern age is more confusing than ever. Plus, what about those old school rules like tipping the paperboy? Does that even still apply in a world where you never meet that person? And how much are you supposed to tip the hotel housekeeper anyway?

We’ve outlined everything you need to know about tipping in these modern times, so you’ll never be confused again. Just know that, unfortunately, even in a world that seems to be cash-free, tipping requires you to have lots of dollar bills on hand at all times. It’s a small inconvenience for all of the convenience.

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EATING AND DRINKING OUT ON THE TOWN

Barista

If you’re getting a complicated drink, you should definitely tip, but don’t feel like you have to pay extra for the latte art because seriously it’s “art” that you’re going to ruin with your first sip and that no one asked for and that no one needs to see on Instagram ever again. Pardon the digression. If you pay for your coffee order with a debit card and there’s no tip option, don’t stress; just make it up to them the next time you stop by. And if it’s your regular spot and you always pay with a debit card, consider leaving $10 or $20 once a month in cash.

Tip: Leftover change to $1 is plenty

 

Bartender

$1 for a beer, glass of wine, or simple cocktail. Two bucks for anything more complicated or if you’re drunk and annoying.

Tip: $1 to $2 per drink

 

Mixologist

Oh, did you think a mixologist and a bartender were the same thing? Silly, you. A mixologist almost never makes a vodka soda. Rather, he will use an excessive amount of ingredients to create a magic elixir you’ll pay anywhere from $12-$16 for, not including the $2 to $3 tip you’ll also leave because of the fact that he had to go to far off lands to capture fire from a dragon that he then used to smoke the Himalayan cedar plank he brought home from his vision quest that will be fed into a decanter and then mixed with the cocktail that will be served over one giant hand-carved ice cube. tl;dr: $2-3. Artisan mustache wax isn’t cheap, you know.

Tip: $2 to $3 per cocktail

 

Server

We love the idea of tip-free restaurants where everything is included in the cost of food, but we’re not there yet. Until we are, leave twenty percent unless something egregious happened with your service, in which case, you should call the manager over and explain why you’re not tipping well. ‘Cause do you really think any waiter has ever been like, “Huh, an 11 percent tip. It must have been because I didn’t write down the order and then brought out the wrong entrée!” No. He’s like “Ugh, screw those cheap ass b****.”

Tip: 20 percent

 

Valet Parking

There are those who will argue that you have to tip the valet when you drop the car off and when you pick it up. Those people are silly. But you do need to tip when you car is returned safely. Even if the service is complimentary. Anywhere from $2 to $5 will suffice. And no, “I don’t have any cash on me” is not an excuse.

Tip: $2 to $5

 

Restroom Attendant

A dollar is plenty if you take a towel or mint. However, if you use the hairspray and ask for advice about your love life, you’ll need to leave at least two or three bucks

Tip: $1-$3

EATING AND DRINKING AT HOME

Alcohol Delivery

Praise [your choice of higher being here] that you can get wine, beer, and booze delivered straight to your door. With some, you have to decide on your tip before you receive the order, which is annoying, but will be less annoying when you pop that first bottle less than hour after you hit “place order.” Others let you tip post-delivery, which is good, but their prices tend to be a little steeper. The recommended amount is 10 to 20 percent, but probably around 15 percent is fair.

Tip: 15 percent

 

Food Delivery

Whether you’re ordering from the restaurant or using an app, you should generously reward the person who is saving your lazy ass from having to do anything more than answer the front door. While a lot of people will tell you that you don’t need to tip more than 10 percent for delivery, you seriously need to give the person at least five bucks and that is that. More if it’s raining.

Tip: $5-$10 depending on the order; more if it’s raining 

 

Caviar

Caviar has a whole spiel about how they pay couriers a competitive rate for their services, and that tipping is not required. However, it is “appreciated.” Which means you should do it. Considering the delivery and service fee, 15 percent (or a couple of bucks) is probably plenty. You’ll need to hand it over in cash though as you can’t tip via the app.

Tip: 15 percent or at least a couple of dollars. Cash only.

 

Munchery

Munchery says gratuity is optional, but does allow you to extend a tip either via cash during delivery or by specifying an amount during checkout. Considering there’s no difference between what a Munchery delivery driver is doing and what the pizza delivery guy does, it seems pretty obvious what you should do. (Hint: TIP.) The options are $1, $3, $5 or other. Leave $3 to $5 depending on how big the order is.

Tip: $3 to $5

 

Sprig

Sprig says that tip is included. But those drivers don’t make nearly enough money. Give ‘em a dollar if you can.

Tip: Nothing or $1 to $2

 

Postmates

Postmates says that a tip is not required, but they mean that in the same way that it’s not required that you brush your teeth twice a day, but you really should because it’s the right thing to do. You can add any amount after the delivery is complete via the app. It should probably be 15 percent to 20 percent, depending on what you ordered and the amount of hassle. For example, no need to tip more than 15 percent for something like a sandwich, but if you had a flat screen TV delivered, behave accordingly.

Tip: 15 to 20 percent

 

Instacart

The tip amount defaults to 10 percent, which seems like a fair amount to us for grocery delivery since that can add up fast, though if it’s raining, 15 percent seems more reasonable, especially if the total is under $50.

Tip: 10 to 15 percent

TRAVEL

 

Skycap

If you’re going to check your bag at the curb, you’d better have some dollar bills on you to give the skycap.

Tip: $1 per bag; $2 per heavy bag

 

Bellhop

You’re under no obligation to accept the bellhop’s offer to assist you with your bags. But if you do take that assistance, you’ll need to tip accordingly.

Tip: $1 to $2 per bag delivered to your room

 

Hotel Housekeeper

There are arguments that the hotel should pay housekeepers enough so that guests don’t have to tip on top of the room rate. That’s definitely true. But until that happens, you should tip $2 to $5 per night, depending on how much you’re paying to stay there and the quality of service. Pro Tip: Leave the tip every day for the best service.

Tip: $2 to $5 per night

 

Hotel Concierge

If you don’t use the concierge, then, duh, you don’t need to tip. But if you ask for help with something, you’ll need to hand over a tip that reflects the difficulty of the task you asked him or her to perform. So, maybe $5 to $10 for a restaurant reservation and $30 for hard-to-get tickets. And be sure to hand it over after the task has been performed since someone else may be on duty when you check out.

Tip: $5 to $30, depending on the task at hand.

 

Room Service

Check to make sure that gratuity isn’t added. If it’s not, then leave 15% of the cost of the meal.

Tip: 15 percent

 

Tour Guide

Whether it’s a week-long rafting trip or a day spent exploring the pyramids in Egypt, it’s customary to tip your guide and the bus driver if it’s two separate people. Although that does not pertain to people who work in national parks.

Tip: $5 to $10 for the guide and driver on a day trip. At least 15 to 20 percent for tour guides who are with you for an entire trip.

 

Taxis

The best thing about taxi drivers is that they tend to know where they’re going without relying on a stupid map and know the best way to get there while avoiding traffic and construction. They should be rewarded accordingly. And if they help you with your luggage, that’s an extra buck at least.

Tip: 15 to 20 percent depending on the service

 

Lyft

Lyft now accepts tips through the app. It’s optional, but, you know: not really.

Tip: 15 to 20 percent depending on the service.

 

Uber

Uber says “there’s no need to tip” and, accordingly, there is no way to do so via the app. However, the site also says if you have cash and “decide you would like to tip, your driver is welcome to accept.” This creates issues, like tipping so that your rating doesn’t suffer. And it changes the best thing about Uber, which is that you don’t have to deal with any exchange of money. Still… when you think about it, especially considering that Lyft now encourages tipping, it’s probably the right thing to do.

Tip: $1 to $5. Cash only.

ALL THAT OTHER STUFF

Bartender at an Open Bar Party

There’s a good chance tip is included in some way, shape, or form, but do you want stiff drinks and good service or watered-down drinks that take forever to pour? Exactly. If you put down $10 at the beginning of the night, your evening (and cocktails) should be a lot better as a result.

Tip: $1 per drink

 

Car Wash

If your car is covered in dog hair and slobber or you just got back from a long road trip, you’ll need to throw down some more cash. Otherwise, a few bucks is fine.

Tip: $3 to $5

 

Coat Check

Tip: $1 per coat

 

Dog Groomer

Tip: 15 to 20 percent

 

Emergency Roadside Person

Did you know you’re supposed to tip the person who comes to help you when you accidentally lock your dog in your car? (Don’t ask.) Yup, you are. Of course, if you’re stranded on the side of the road with a flat, you may not have cash, but if you do, $5 to $10 is appropriate, unless the person owns the company who is helping you.

Tip: $5 to $10

 

Furniture Delivery

Tip: $5 to $10 per person depending on how heavy/cumbersome it is. More if there are stairs involved.

 

Hair Shampooer

This is important. If the person who shampoos your hair is not the same person who cuts or colors it, then you need to tip that person a few dollars.

Tip: $3 to $5

 

Hair Stylist

Anywhere from 15 to 20 percent is a good amount. If you’ve been going to the same person forever, it’s also nice to leave a little more during the holidays.

Tip: 15 to 20 percent

 

Manicurist/Pedicurist/Masseuse/Waxer/Etc.

Tip: 15 to 20 percent

 

Movers

Yes, it sucks, but every single mover needs to receive a tip and that tip needs to reflect the difficulty of the move, including heavy furniture, stairs, distance, etc.

Tip: $25 to $50 per person

DURING THE HOLIDAYS

 

Babysitter/Nanny

You don’t have to give this person cash, but probably they’d rather have cash than a scarf, so…

Tip: Two weeks pay

 

Building Super

Yeah, you know that guy or gal who you call when you’re locked out or your toilet is overflowing? You’re supposed to tip ‘em at the end of the year for a job well done. Even if you never call them for anything, they’re still the people who solve all of the problems for the buildings, including issues you (hopefully) never know about.

Tip: $20 to $100

 

Daycare Provider/Teacher

It’s not really appropriate to fork over cash (even if that’s probably what the person who takes care of your children wants and most needs), but a gift ranging in cost from $10 to $50 is a great way to show this person who much you appreciate what he or she does. And, yes, it can be in the form of a gift card, which is the next best thing to cash.

Tip: $10 to $50 gift card

 

Dog Walker

Tip: Equivalent of one week of service

 

Doorman

Omg, you have a doorman? Fancy! Of course, there’s a price to pay, especially if he accepts packages, dry cleaning, and does other little chores on your behalf.

Tip: $20 per person if it’s a rotating crew; $50 if you have one main doorman

 

Housekeeper

Tip: Equivalent of one visit

 

Newspaper Delivery Person

You may never even see this person because he or she comes while you’re still sleeping, in which case you can call the newspaper to ask where you should send a check.

Tip: $20

 

Personal Trainer

Tip: The price of one session

 

Postal Worker

USPS policy states that your mail delivery person can’t accept cash or gift cards. However, gifts worth $20 or less are acceptable. Time to start baking cookies!

Tip: Something homemade and delicious

 

UPS/FedEx

Much like the USPS, FedEx drivers aren’t allowed to accept cash and UPS drivers are discouraged to do so. But considering how much stuff you probably get delivered, it would be nice to give them some tasty treats or a small token of your appreciation.

Tip: A physical gift (edible or otherwise) that’s not worth more than $20

 

Editor’s Note: This post has been updated to be relevant to a national audience.  

By

Daisy Barringer moved to San Francisco when she was six years old and though she considers herself a "local," knows better than to ever call herself "a native." She resides in the Upper Haight/Cole Valley, but spends a lot of time in Tahoe with her 150-pound Saint Bernard, Monkey.

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Comments

150 Comments

  1. I stopped counting how many categories of tippees are in the article. Did we go over 100? In a world of faint movements toward non-tipping in some restaurants, do I actually see NEW categories of people to tip? I.e., there seems to be a final nail in the coffin of my ever using Uber again.

    Baksheesh culture is rather depressing, and that’s what we’re turning into. Pay your employees properly, roll everything into a transparent price for customers, expect excellent service of everyone. Why can’t things be this simple?

  2. Dario

    Tipping is a mostly a perversion of the free market where a business shifts unto the consumer the burden of paying their employees. This is usually after you have already overpaid for the product, like the $5 hipster coffee. The more we tip, the less incentive businesses have to provide a fair wage. I prefer the European model where businesses just pay their employees and I pay the business for the service or product. End of transaction.
    Of course, there are some exceptions to this.

  3. cazador

    Also, when tipping at a restaurant, you don’t need to include the tax to calculate your 20%. The server has no control over the tax, and they do no work to collect it.

  4. I wonder why you didn’t include babysitters (only holiday pay, which really is mostly for nannies that work with one family only). I work for a babysitting company and the company takes 10-15% of what we make. Some parents tip but most don’t and I think most don’t because they don’t realize they should. We are providing a service too- a very important service of watching their most beloved. Often we don’t only take care of the kids but we clean and tidy their homes. We deserve a tip too! $5-$20 depending on the number of kids, hours, difficulty, etc.

  5. Michael

    Are you crazy? The quality of service in this area is sub-standard at best, entitled at worst. You are enforcing this terrible cycle, what makes you think that people deserve 20% for service at a restaurant? That’s what you tip at the best restaurant where you have back-servers and consistently fantastic service. I can tell you have never worked a real job before, and by work I mean actually deserved the 20% and did not expect it.

  6. V helpful. I am curious however what the protocol is for take – out? I never know what to tip when I order take out and pick it up myself. I am typically paying with the guy/gal at the register, do they get it? Who gets the tip? I never know and sometimes just dont do it :/

  7. Chris

    Ridiculous. So tipping at restaurants is now 20% minimum? Really? How much should I tip my accountant? Also, the reason I use Uber is to avoid tipping. Now you’re telling us the “Definitive” guide is to tip them?

    Sorry…but I call B.S. on this whole article. Agreed with the previous commenter…I stopped counting (scrolling actually). Employers should be paying employees their fair pay instead of passing that responsibility onto the consumer.

  8. So, basically just throw $1 bills at anyone you run into on any given day……What about tipping the blogger whose article you’re reading? That is good info to know about holiday tipping your dog walker.

  9. Laura

    Some of these are so out of proportion. I’m supposed to tip $2-3 for a drink that is overpriced to begin with, took too long to make, and doesn’t taste any better than a classic cocktail, but the person who packs up dinner for 6 people, loads it in their car in the pouring rain — which they make payments on and pay for gas, insurance, and maintenance — drives it to my house, and lugs it up my steps is supposed to get only $10? I always tip food delivery people at least 20%.

  10. As a Barista who has worked in multiple cafés in both Oakland and San Francisco, the expected tip amount is always 20% not, “whatever change is left over.” You would never not tip your bartender, even if you were simply grabbing a beer. The same goes in coffee shops. The latte art that you didn’t pay for is actually demonstrative of the barista’s skills and care for the preparation of your drink. Baristas at good shops spend hours off the café floor learning about coffee and preparation techniques so that you have the best product possible. Such care is indicative of how we take our jobs seriously. I, like many people who work in the service industry, would love it if the tip was simply calculated into the cost of the food. It’s frustrating to give the customer the choice of of paying us fairly, however, that is currently how the system works. As a customer, you should calculate a 20% tip into the actual cost of the food/beverage you are purchasing because that is HOW MUCH IT COSTS. Those who have worked in the service industry almost always tip appropriately or over tip. You can always tell if someone has never worked in service if they don’t tip—they simply don’t get it. It’s particularly infuriating when people who want to chat with you and be your friend don’t tip. It’s disrespectful and frankly, ignorant.

  11. We don’t need you to tell us how much to tip or if we should tip. Tipping is a courtesy, not a mandate. I should tip because I walk to the counter for coffee and wait for it? I agree with Dario’s comment; tipping has become a perversion. I won’t eat in a restaurant that adds tips to the bill; it’s not their call; nor do I want to pay for someone’s health insurance; I struggle to pay mine. This is the new ” service society” that everyone shouts about. Well, they can pay their employees a decent wage, give them some benefits and take a little less off the top for those making a fortune on the backs of others.

  12. Jimmy

    This article is ridiculous. Are you getting some commission on collected tips? Uber tipping is required? You must really be trying to throw away your money. Tipping should be the exception, not the norm.

  13. Diane Sanchez

    These seems about right except on the baggage handling…the $1 /bag has been the same for the 30 years i have traveled…yes they handle a lot of bags in a day…but the NPV of that $1 has changed as i do carry on…Im out of the tipping loop but it made me think.

  14. fuck tipping
    fuck peer pressure to tip
    fuck americans who need to be financially rewarded for every single thing they do in their blue collared jobs
    the barista who holds an 8 oz coffee gets more cash appreciation than the guy who just hauled your king bed onto your truck from ikea or the construction worker who just hauled 80 lbs of load for your new kitchen, if we

  15. Richard

    This article is everything that is wrong with tipping. As an earlier commenter said, it’s the long slide into baksheesh culture. A tip should be a rare exception for an exemplary job well done or an effort above and beyond the normal call of duty.

  16. Realist415

    Not a chance I’m paying 15% on a food delivery service like postmates. I give $5, it’s the same as pizza delivery. The customers get rated and nobody has had a problem with it so far.

    Furthermore, any new services being being created by technology will not be tipped if the company doesn’t state it as mandatory. This has gotten excessive and is a joke. Roll it all up into the base price and let me decide if I want the service.

  17. Lynne

    I’m sorry, but the whole idea of a gratuity is to thank the individual for good to excellent service, not to thank someone for barely doing their job. The amount should be related to the quality of service, not difficulty of the service or percentage of a bill. How silly.

  18. lynn t.

    This article is beyond ridiculous. I am appalled. I found the article title to be interesting…. but then as I read the list of categories to tip, it kept going on and on and on and on……… are you SERIOUS?! Is America going to start tipping for everything?! Should I tip the Trader Joe’s cashier for neatly bagging my groceries?! Should I tip the school crossguard for helping me cross the street? Should I tip the mailman for delivering my mail. How about people in America do their job and stop feeling entitled to extra money. To the author of this article, you are trying to set a trend pr normalize what should be tipped and it is wrong. You, the author, I find ridiculous!

  19. Hayden

    What a ridiculous article! If you are working at a job where you get tips, and you don’t like the tips you are getting, find another job!! (or get better at your job)
    Really 15% for instacart? They make an hourly rate. And that’s there sole job.

  20. Ben F

    I think the author of this article thinks that consumers have endless disposable income to climb to the top of Bernal Heights and just sprinkle magical tips across the land. I agree with most of the commenters that this article is both ridiculous and borderline offensive. If we all tipped the way Ms. Barringer suggests, many consumers couldn’t afford to buy as much, would use these products and services less, start-ups would have a tougher time thriving, and then those hard-working employees would need to find some other source of income altogether. Because SF is so expensive, the focus tends to be on how to support the hard-working people in the bottom quartile, but what about the hard-working people struggling to have a comfortable lifestyle in this expensive city??

    Also, with the proliferation of mobile payments on tablets, there are optional tips for EVERYTHING now, and this article doesn’t explain the toughest questions of how much to tip the Sandwich guy at lunch, or whether to tip an ice cream attendant, or the countless other types of counter transactions.

  21. Susan

    I agree with most of the comments about the assumption that every single thing someone does for us deserves a tip and that tipping allows for business owners to justify paying employees low salaries. I also want to show individual workers appreciation for their demanding jobs. Being outraged at the tipping expectations seems like a justification to be cheap and tip no one. Don’t punish the worker for a system they didn’t create. Instead, stick your neck out and join others in demanding higher wages for everyone.

  22. barbarajean

    Yes I agree with your tip estimates. As a former ‘tip’ recipient, I will be forever grateful for the kindness of strangers & will continue to pass it on for as long as I live~

  23. realistic aloe

    Keep on wishing for 20% barista, not happening. Already pushing it as a minimum fur average waiter/waitress. 20-25 for really good service…

  24. Carol G.

    I note that Ms Barringer describes herself on Twitter as “Consistently inappropriate; freelance writer/editor”. That would explain this fluff piece on tipping. No way will do I support monetary tipping as “expected” for someone doing their job.

    Here’s a different tip: Write a note of appreciation and send it to the service person’s employer – letting them know that is the reason you will come back to their establishment. Share the note with the employee. And don’t forget to express appreciation verbally when the person waits on you. Everything is NOT about $$$$$$ (except perhaps in the minds of elitest snobs like Ms. Barringer who apparently think everyone else’s income is ‘disposable’.) Most of us do our own shopping ( even – gasp! – bag our own groceries), get our exercise by lugging them up the stairs ourselves (not needing a ‘personal trainer’ to tell us how to get/stay in shape). I could list other examples of the REAL lives of the 99%, but this gives you an idea.

  25. Tipping is a gift for services rendered. It’s a tradition, but shouldn’t be an expectation. No one tips me in my sales service sector, but yet I’m expected to highly tip others with my hard earned money. As others have said, it’s ridiculous!

  26. Tipping in a restaurant used to be 10% for good service. I don’t understand the progression to 20% as the cost of restaurant meals have gone up so much. Even Chez Panisse only adds an 18% service charge. In any event, 10% or even 15% of a higher restaurant bill increases tip income for the server already.

  27. Jordan

    As a bartender, these responses are commensurate with tipping habits I’ve seen in SF, which has pretty cheap tipping habits at best.

    That said, I do think the European/world model is better, but we have what we have. So, some modified suggestion from a *non-pretentious-mixology-smoked cedar-moustached SF bartender:

    -I know you’re a bit bitter about your rent, but *I’ve got to pay rent too, and we depend mostly on gratuity to do so, so don’t order a round *one round of drinks for you and your friends acting all cool cause your new post-college first job is paying you enough to afford a few mixed drinks, then give me $2 on your $28 bill.
    -Also, if your new job has you feeling like such a cool baller, leave it open and buy more drinks. Don’t close it after one round. Not many things are more annoying in hospitality than needing to serve the next customer, but having to postpone doing that because I need to close your tab on my POS and hand it to you because you don’t carry enough cash for 4 drinks out.
    -Pro tip: carry cash. If you’re just stopping by a bar for a few, pay cash. If you’re sitting down to watch a football game at bar X, sure, start a tab, then at the end, see how much it is and how you want to pay.
    -Also, even if you settle up with card, if you have ample cash in your wallet/purse, consider paying the tip in cash (pro tip part 2: we rarely have to claim cash tips, so we *don’t get taxed on them…yay!).

    I contract myself to bartend events here, and have done countless. As well as having done some catering bartending in the past (you may have seen me at your friend’s wedding in Sonoma). So, without further ado, some…
    *Open bar advice modifiers (I kind of agree with author and kind of don’t):
    -Firstly, no, there is usually *no gratuity package included for the bartender. Very rarely. You’d think there would be. That fancy catering company staffing the 400 person $20k bar package contract for your company shindig should have a gratuity package, right? Nope, no it doesn’t. We’re still serving you, and we still depend on you just like in any bar. Gratuity packages are very very rare.
    -Bring cash to open bars. Tipping is very commonly very poor at open bars, especially (hate to say it), at tech events (I don’t think this is a reflection of tech people being cheap, but moreso the culture of having stuff- lunches, kegerators, ping pong, fusball, etc- free for use, so the EtOH should be, too, right?).
    -Well, you’re still receiving a service whether you’re in a brick and mortar cash bar or an open bar, and service should be appreciated. I can’t tell you how deflating it is to try to put on a smile all night while thirsty people ask you for drinks, suck down their free vodka/sodas and bourbon/gingers all night like they’re entitled to them, and never lay down a single dollar. After 3+ hours of that, it just gets soul-crushing, and you start to ask yourself, “What’s wrong with humanity. Who raised these people?”
    -$10 at the start of the event is a solid suggestion, sure. But, at least from me, it won’t get you stronger drinks. My job is to responsibly serve you. I don’t know if your (reasonably generous), but dumbass will drive home. However, it will get you more smiles, banter, and enthusiastic service from me. Because unlike many others, you appreciate what I’m doing for you guys, and your event. Ask yourself, would this event be as fun and cool with or without alcohol and a bartender making you tasty drinks with a smile? If the answer is no, then show some love, my lovelies.
    -$1 a drink is a good start, but I’d say a better pattern is leaving >$1 every 2 drinks you get. That way, you’re not reaching in your wallet for each one for just a dollar. Or, maybe $5 per 3 trips to the bar. If you think about it, that’s like getting $1.50 beers/wells, which is pretty awesome. And, if you do drop a $10 at the beginning, but you’re going back often, and going back with groups getting rounds of 3-5 drinks, consider putting another $5 down or better yet, suggesting to one of your (mostly likely haven’t tipped yet) friends to show some love, stating you already have earlier.
    -Bottom line: show some love at open bars. There’s a 95% chance that your love is the only gratuity we’re getting that night.

    Thanks, SF! : )

  28. Chris

    I blame credit card companies who put the tip line on every single receipt nowadays to be filled out. And now they are upping the ante by giving 15%, 20%, and 25% automatic selections nowadays when pay on the touchscreens.

    Now everyone expects a tip these days. Pretty soon the Girl Scouts will be using those tablet devices and asking for tips!

  29. Let’s remember tips stands for ‘to insure prompt service.’ If my server has done an excellent job then yes I’ll tip 20% but average service 15% is the standard and it’s been that way for years. I was a server for years and I worked my butt off so people would have a good experience. When I see others taking that same pride in their work I like to reward them with a tip. I don’t like feeling a reward is something expected. I also find it hard to tip when there is already a service charge or delivery fee.

  30. Rally
    Rally

    Opinions make the world go ’round, but name calling’s not our jam. As we express ourselves in the comment section, let’s remember our kindergarten manners please!

  31. Leslee

    Really people? Of course the tipping schematic is the US is lame and outdated. But people who work these service oriented jobs receive hourly wages skewed to these tipping guidelines that Daisy has so generously compiled for you. They amount to an acceptable income levied against the practice of serving you. You can butch and moan about it all you want, but at the end of the day, if you aren’t going to tip- then don’t use the service. Either that or just put it away somewhere deep in your little black heart that you are cheating someone less fortunate than you since you apparently don’t rely on tips to make your living.

  32. George

    As stated before, tipping creates a poverty trap because it allows employers to pay below minimum wage. I understand that waiters want money but to mandate 20% at a restaurant is laughable and encourages employers to keep hiring bad employees.

    This tipping mandate is going to cause even more gentrification in SF. Be careful what you wish for.

  33. Tipping culture has to change. Although someone made the comment about people feeling “entitled”, I think that some service workers exhibit the same behavior with their own brand of entitlement. I gave a $20 tip on a bill that was a total of $100 including the tax, and when I left, the waiter said “Was there something wrong with the service?”. I was a bit flabbergasted with the sense of entitlement that my $90 bill with $10 tax with a $20 tip on top ($120 of my money) for being in a restaurant for 1 hour seemed more than generous for a quiet mature table of 4. I think that something is wrong the concept–I work in service, but it’s in healthcare service providing care for underserved patients. I have NEVER expected a tip for saving a life, delivering a baby, or relieving pain–and I would never even consider taking a tip. I think that the “expectation of tipping” is a reflection of entitlement of service workers and resent for their boss or company not paying well enough.

  34. Jeff Harband

    @HBF – I don’t care how artfully the latte was presented, it didn’t cost $4.00 to make, even with the most expensive coffee in the world, so paying you an additional $.80 to decorate my drink still doesn’t make sense. I’m happy to talk to your manager, however, and tell him / her what a great artist you are and how you should be paid more.

  35. Yousuf M.

    Compared to other parts of the US, service in SF (waitstaff, delivery, etc.) is pretty lousy. I am not going to encourage bad behavior with a 20% tip, no thanks. I tip on a case by case basis and if the service is bad I just don’t use them again and off-course no-tip.

  36. Marina

    I agree completely with some of the comments, this country is crazy with tipping! Why is it not the restaurant/bar/hotel/Uber etc. owner’s responsibility to pay their employees a fair wage? Why is it my responsibility? They’re making buckets of money charging $18 for a few greens on a plate or $8 for a side of potatoes, meanwhile paying their employees shit! They even pass on the health insurance costs to the customers now! Perhaps we should also be paying for the ingredients, and the detergent used to wash their dishes!!

  37. Wow I lost track of who I should tip and how much you should have an app for this oh I did not see these professions and wondering what they should get
    1) Doctor
    2) Lawyer
    3) Transit driver
    4) Pilot of the plane that flew me including the gate staff, baggage handlers and flight attendants
    5) Police
    6) If I run into someone famous do I tip them more if they are A list then a B list
    7) Street Cleaners
    8) Oh what if I run into a senator they must get a huge tip!!

  38. MyriamKP

    Tips are taxed, but how are they taxed? I believe it is based on an estimated amount, which would mean not tipping punishes the server. So who gets taxed on tip? Tipping has become a judgemental perversion. The company should be covering it and at the same time not over paying the executive staff.

  39. george davis

    I entered the labor force in 1962, an age of unionized labor. I never believed in tipping, only in union wages. Still do. However, I just bent my beliefs to pay for the reality that certain occupations are too culturally ingrained in tipping culture like taxis, bartenders, hairdressers, hotel personnel, porters and others who were unionized at the time in San Francisco. Why increase the list? Tipping for counter service, ridiculous concept. Increased tipping rates, ridiculous concept. Let’s unionize these people..

  40. vina day

    LOLZ…to the coffee guy, 20%, no one does that dream on. its coffee… already overpriced. your adding some milk is of no consequence. go to Italy its not like that and every cup is actually a work of art because they take pride in their work. I don’t tip hotel maids, I let my hairdresser tip her own staff, I tip at restaurants 15% bu make sure I exclude price of alcohol and just add a few dollars for that because that can double the bill. uber no, postman? no, ups no, most on this list no way, I will tip20% in the backward southern states that only pay servers 2.01 an hour. but not in California where they make at least min wage.

  41. Here’s where I stand on the tipping spectrum. First off, I’ve worked since I was 12 years old (I’m 31 now) at a restaurant. (The situation was legal considering my age, as my parents were part of the business.) Since then I’ve experienced working at numerous customer service jobs which provided the opportunity for customers to tip, i.e., barista and wine tour guide, and not tip, i.e., Trader Joe’s, IKEA. Today, I’m working toward a career not involved with the consumer industry (at least not to the capacity of my previous experiences) but I’ve realized the importance of tipping and, frankly, not tipping. In short: I believe in tipping when the service warrants it. That means if my experience at a coffee shop was a pleasant one, I’ll sometimes leave a tip upon leaving. If I don’t tip, I’ll bus my own plate/cup to the counter and wish the wait-staff a good day. I feel no pressure of “needing” to tip when I don’t feel that it’s earned. Granted, there are certain businesses that are known to reap better tips than others, but a job shouldn’t be relied solely for the sake of receiving tips. If anything, customer service jobs should be a place where people learn about human behavior, communication skills, and dealing with difficult situations, as well as a stepping stone to life’s “next chapter,” such as earning an income while going to school. And if not for this reason, then someone who has a passion whether for coffee, helping people (such as a concierge), or mixing drinks are in it for the love of what they do, not the cash.

  42. Jordan

    And, just so I don’t get flamed, let me follow-up my previous comment by saying that *some tip for services can be expected, but a certain % should not. I empathize with those that have experienced bad service with the sense of an expectation for solid tip despite that. Most service industry folk, myself included try to make good experiences for people, give good service, so sure, we hope for good tips. It goes both ways, too. It’s not easy to just keep serving serving serving hundreds in an evening, and keeping that same smile and exuberance for all. Also, some customers themselves project entitlement, like a “give me my damn drink, and I’ll take you for granted, and not act appreciative.” And I’m talking body language, not money. This makes it harder to keep up that positive energy for all customers when there are some bad apples.

    So, I’ll go on record saying I don’t think good tips should be expected just for showing up and doing the bare minimum, but when good service is received, show you appreciate that. Especially since that bartender or server who is smiling and making for a fun experience for you probably just 5 min ago had someone be a total ass potentially ruining their mood, or maybe has a table that is being rude at the very same time he/she is keeping up a smile for your table. Service is not a Sunday walk in the park. It’s dealing with people, and even “white collar” (term thrown out there by a few posters) know that, sometimes people suck. So, don’t take a nice, friendly smiling bartender or server for granted. : )

  43. Baristas?

    And I can almost guarantee you that stupid barista up above who claims you’re supposed to tip him 20‰ has probably never tipped his Uber driver, who really makes very little money. Hilarious! It’s not necessary, right? What a joke!

  44. Jennifer

    Wow. The comment section is ridiculous. My father told me if you can’t afford to tip you can’t afford the service. All the authors suggested tips seem appropriate to me. I’ll even tip over 20% if the server provided a really warm and attended experience.
    Yeah, it would be great if our country’s pay structure wasn’t set up allow employers to pay less then (our currently paltry outside of SF) minimum wage, but it is. Especially all these apps that get away with paying people as independent contractors. It’s sh!t which is why I don’t use those services, including uber, lyft, etc. I do take issue with people not reporting their tip income though. Pay your damn taxes people!

  45. Sparky

    This was a thoughtful read for me, both the article and the comments. A few thoughts:
    — Bartenders in SF make BUCKS. Over $500 a night on weekends, easily, mostly cash. After waiting at a packed bar 3-5 people deep, while the bartender ignores me to serve cuter, younger, or female patrons (depending on the bar), I think $1 for anything where all he has to do is open a bottle and hand it to me is completely and entirely fair. Mixed drinks: always $2 for “X & Y” cocktails, and more for more complicated orders, or if actual service or personality has been provided. Also, more if it’s a table service kind of place, of course. An open bar at a wedding? There should never be a tip jar, and bartenders should not accept tips from guests if they are offered. The tip is the host’s responsibility. Open bar at corporate events, however… always tip $1-3 per drink, just as you would at any bar.
    — Next: cafes. I’m a tea drinker. Half the time, I pull my own tea bag from the rack. All the cashier does (barista truly does not apply in this case) is grab a mug and fill it with hot water, often either not hot enough for the tea to brew properly, or so hot that it literally burns the tea leaves. Spare change is more than adequate. There’s not even a basic understanding of what’s being served, certainly no artistry, and nearly no service whatsoever. And yes, I always bus my own dishes at cafes, properly sort recyclables, and I don’t throw the napkin into the bus tray. I also stack plates, glasses and mugs in a stable configuration in the bus tray so that it’s easier to pick up and avoid breakage. Really — I do.
    — Restaurants: Those jerks who leave a card saying that tipping is an unfair practice that should be abolished? Criminal! Let’s change the system, by all means, but that is not the way to make that happen. Typically, I tip 20%, including on the tax and alcohol, but I don’t expect everyone to do so. I love the suggestion to talk to the manager if the deserved tip will be less than 15%, because s/he really should know what a lousy job the server is doing. I will do that in the future. (I actually had one waiter get my order wrong, take it back to the kitchen — which is a health code violation — wipe off the offending sauce, and bring the same burger and bun back to my table. If there was ever a time to talk to the manager…)
    — And finally, there is a huge difference between professional restaurant service (which is harder and harder to find in any city) and the casual, “friendly” service that we generally get nowadays. No, I do not want to be interrupted so you can ask me if I would like more water. No, I don’t want to tell you whether or not I’ve eaten here before; I can read the menu quite well, thank you; you do not have to point out the appetizers for me. I don’t care what your favorite dish is because we probably don’t like the same things. I’d never trust your recommendation to order the fish that you’ve been told to push because it’s been sitting there since Thursday. And if I warn you that I’m really fussy about my tomatoes, that I like them juicy and flavorful, and that I will send them back if they aren’t good, so don’t let me order them… guess what? Just tell me not to order them. Because if I get a plateful of flavorless, grey, crunchy tomatoes, you do not get to act shocked or put upon when I send them back. I *do* tip for honesty.
    ** Boy, that turned into quite a rant! If you’re still with me, thanks for reading.

  46. Sas C.

    BUNCH of cheap ass mofo’s on here complaining… probably utilize Yelp to complain about service when they could have easily addressed a service issue when and where it happened In Real Life. At the moment, we don’t have a living wage; so using that excuse is just lazy. I do work in the service industry and I bust my ass making sure people get tasty, quality, and presentable food. Most importantly, that it is clean and edible. Why? Because I believe in integrity and karma. When people don’t tip for excellent service that I provide, that’s okay. I just take mental note and next time they come in service is less than. Seems fair, right?
    So when you don’t tip, you’re just being a dick. And no one likes you. And you’re probably a real joy at parties.

  47. I was ready to scoff but you’ve hit everything pretty much spot on! Movers $50.00? yep exactly right. One of my favorite movie scenes is when Joe Pesci tips the prison guard who escorts him to his nephew’s cell in My Cousin Vinny.

  48. BaronJ

    Wow, This list is wrong on so many levels. Effectively, what it is saying is that bribery is alive and well in modern day America. Tipping barman and servers, sure I agree with that, as they get screwed on minimum wage deals. It shouldn’t be that way, but it is. However – I read the above where people tip 10-15% for bad service. If its bad, why are you tipping at all? If I get bad food, wrong orders, bad service, why should I reward at all for making my life unpleasant?
    Post workers and UPS/FedEx? To drive a truck and throw my parcels at my doorstep? Not a chance, even less walking for the USPS guy, who never leaves the truck at all. Tipping is meant to be 2 things – optional, and to acknowledge great service.
    Why not go all out and tip the guy who packs your groceries at the register, the sales assistant in a clothes store or the register clerk at CVS? I don’t get tips in my job, nor do I expect tips, as I get paid. If I didn’t like the wage or the job, I’d get another job. The culture has to change, to make it something meaningful again. If its not meaningful, then its a Service Charge, not a gratuity/tip.

  49. If the service I’m paying for is free then I will tip. I’ve already paid hard earned money for whatever it was that I purchased. There are times when a tip is customary for “great” service. But not every single time an employee does something they are already paid to do.

  50. Abigail Wright

    I definitely disagree about coat check, especially in a city that’s heavy on public transit and therefore, lots of heavy bags, shoes, wet umbrellas, etc. Minimum $2-5. No exceptions.

  51. Stephanie

    For all those who commented negatively above (who are clearly poor tippers): work a tipped job that pays below minimum wage, see how hard the work is, and THEN decide if you plan to be a below standard tipper. Also: 20 years ago, how much did you tip for a drink or a bag? $1? Why in the world would you continue to tip the same now? Double it, at least! Cost of living . . .

  52. Honestly, I find the concept that a bathroom requires a hospitality attendant in the first place a little silly. I’m happy to take my own paper towel and keep my own mints in my purse; in fact, that’s my base expectation. The people who should really be getting tips in my opinion are the people who CLEAN the bathroom, but usually you don’t see them and as far as I know it isn’t customary to tip them.

    I often don’t take cash into the bathroom with me in the first place, because I usually don’t expect there to be an attendant (like it doesn’t even cross my mind). Therefore, I don’t tip when I pee. On the off chance I’m in a fancy place that has an attendant, I usually will avoid eye contact, quietly take my own paper towel, and I don’t use anything that may be lying out. Anyone with me on this one, or am I being a jerk here? Is the tip for using the toilet, or for their (unsolicited) assistance? Do I need to remember to start stuffing a dollar bill in my pocket every time I go to the bathroom?

  53. Michael

    It’s true that restaurant owners and the like get away with paying their employees jack shit. I used to work at an 80 year old Italian restaurant in Brooklyn and the family that had owned it for 80 years had become filthy rich over the years and had benefited from this kind of paying employees nothing thing. As soon as there was talk of raising the minimum wage and getting rid of tips the owners at this restaurant started to freak out, like they were being victimized. If a tipless society can work in Europe and other places, then it can damn well work here in the US, but the owners here are always so much greedier and pathological than anywhere else.
    Giving someone a gift or an extra bonus on top of what they do is up to an individual and shouldn’t be the method by which employees are paid.
    Tipping is just another way that capitalism has become too tyrannical and top-heavy.

  54. Malcolm

    This article is just as silly as the entire tipping culture itself I mean since when has tipping become an obligation? where I came from you Tip for Excellent Service that goes above and beyond, not for people doing their jobs for which they are paid for. I come into my office every day I deal with over 200 people a day. I do my level best to ensure all of them my clients leave happy and satisfied and attended to and at the end of the day I still take home the same pay weather I worked hard or not. Am not saying leaving a tip is wrong am saying paying people extra for what they are already being paid to do is ridiculous. And before you all come with that BUT some of these people are only paid X$ an hour or whatever trust you me there is power in numbers if they all stopped showing up for an accepting jobs that pay them anything less than the minimum mandated and regulated wage trust you me in a week two at maximum the industry would change. But when someone offers you a job in a Bar and then proceeds to tell you that you are going to be paid in Tips and you still accept that Job then I strongly believe it is not my fault or my responsibility to supplement your wage. I mean some of the things listed above are simply ludicrous ……. i stand out on the street I wave down a Taxi driver, i get myself into the cab he drops me off at a corner and somehow am expected to pay him more than what I already paid for the ride ??? I go to a Food Truck the guy makes me a great Burger I become a customer for life because i love his Burger the burger costs five dollars why do i then have to alway pay 7…….????

    this issue drive me Nuts and mad as hell and I am not apologising for it I REPEAT I WILL TIP AND I DO TIP FOR EXCELLENT SERVICE THAT GOES ABOVE AND BEYOND YOUR CALL OF DUTY apart from that I am sorry No can’t do

    By the end of a regular months I calculated and I give away close to 500 dollars in Tips alone, from the food delivery to the shoeshiner to the cab to the maid to the etc etc ….. jesus lord have mercy GET REAL PEOPLE GET REAL

  55. Malcolm

    And I just wanted to add that when people say that we are cheating someone less fortunate than us when we don’t tip do they mean to then say that only the rich should tip ???? because we all use basically the same services in New York for example and I have never seen any single one of them that has a disclaimer saying ” If you make 10$/hr please do not leave a tip” so that is Hogwash the lady who works at Walmart is expected to tip just the same way the Pfizer business executive is and thats where its wrong because sometimes for the Walmart lady eating at a restaurant once a month might be a luxury she can ill afford for her and her family and she still has to worry about leaving another 20 dollars because they spent a large amount

    Ridiculous comparison, i know a lot of people who work in my office and make 15$/hr and they are not exempted either so my argument still stands ……..

  56. Nonyadamn Bidness

    A tip is a reward for services rendered…..it’s not something you’re entitled to. You want a tip, do a good job. Don’t do a good job, don’t expect a tip. It’s that simple.

  57. Susan W

    $5 to $10 for food delivery? I order $12 worth of Chinese food from a place 2 blocks away and they can easily do 4 deliveries in half an hour. That’s a minimum of $40 bucks an hour. I think not! Distance should be a major consideration. Also, you suggest the same amount for a guy who’s delivering heavy furniture and not just a bag with moo shu pork and an egg roll. The logic that a delivery person should be paid more because I’m being lazy (your words) makes no sense at all.

  58. Tricia

    It’s a little disappointing to see the negativity on this topic. Personally, I’d rather live a life where I’ve over-tipped folks; I’m just happier with myself being overly generous rather than overly self-centered. I’d rather skip one meal out a month and be able to tip well on the other outings. I default to 20% and adjust based on service (at restaurants).

    Something I’ve always been unclear about, however, is how tipping should (or shouldn’t) change when you’re tipping a provider directly, like the owner of a small restaurant or a massage therapist operating independently from a massage parlor. The argument I’ve heard is that tipping is unnecessary (possibly even insulting) if you’re paying the owner directly since they directly pocket the full funds of the service/product. Thoughts on this? (Actual thoughts, please, not just annoyed raging.)

  59. US Marine

    What percentage to we tip our Military service members when we just so happen to bump into them?

    When you talk with someone and they say I’m a Marine or I’m in the Navy should you tip them $5 for the safety of your life?

    Get the F*** out of here. Serving Coffee, grabbing a car from a parking lot, cleaning dishes is not difficult.

    “I can’t believe that customer didnt tip me. ugh I like totally gave him everything he ordered for and on time.”

    “Get down get down. Incoming fire. F*** i’m hit.”

    Not sure about you but how about you tip your Military service members before a coffee pourer.

  60. Really, I don’t think anyone should ever have to rely on tips.

    It should also be noted that in some states, such as California, everyone, including servers must make at least minimum wage BEFORE tips. While is many other states servers must make at least minimum wage AFTER tips.

    Secondly, there seems to be inconsistency in tipping amounts, for example Munchery suggest a certain tipping level while Postmates is a different level when the delivery drivers are essentially doing the exact same amount of work.

    That being said, tips are intended to show appreciation for what was done for you, they should never be expected, but gladly accepted. And no one should ever expect an automatic tip of X%.

    Think about this at a restaurants:
    I go to a “low cost” restaurant, the server is the only person that I interact with there, they are the ones that bring my food, clear my plates, seat me, etc. In other words they do all of the work themselves aside from cooking my meal.

    I go to an “expensive” restaurant, there is a person who greets me, another person seats me, then another person who takes my drink order, another that takes my food order, another that brings my drink, another that brings my food. Splitting the work among multiple people. Doing less work, yet by tipping based on a percentage, the server makes more money by doing less work (assuming the location doesn’t share tips and most don’t around here).

    Here is another example, there are two tables, each have a party of two. One table orders a very expensive bottle of wine and just entrees. The other table orders just waters to drink, but orders Appetizers and Desserts and their total is 1/2 of what the other table orders. This second table also has dietary restrictions to deal with. Now, obviously the second table was a lot more work for the server to deal with (lets assume the server did all of the work), but yet will make far more in tips off the first table.

    So, no I don’t go with tip a certain percentage for your server, tip based off of how good or poor of a job they did and how much work they had to do for you.

  61. Translation: if you are a lazy shit and you use apps to do everything then you should pay the people who are willing to do the stuff you refuse to do.

  62. Melissa

    Seriously?? Tip the people at Starbucks who make your coffee?? WHY?? do you tip the people at McDonalds who make your burger? Enough of this bullshit….counter service is counter service. Even at coffee places. Unless someone brings the coffee to you at your table and then checks back to see if you need anything…..NO TIP! Its an insult to ACTUAL servers who do way more than plop the coffee down in front of you and take your money.

  63. Heaven

    Okay. This article & the comments are quite interesting. Here, in NYC, Tipping is our income. It’s a HUGE DEAL & Yes, you’re judged when you don’t tip well here. That’s the reality! Many tourists don’t get that & they need to! If tipping is appreciated, it’s basically required. That’s the great thing about fellow NYers, they get that. I’m a Coat Check & make (on average) $600 a night off of TIPS only & that’s NOT because I checked 600 coats. It’s because I checked 200 & received $20, $50 & $100 tips… Yes $100 tips. It’s not that foreign. That $1 a coat rule is inaccurate. I’m speaking as the Coat Check so just imagine the Bartenders, Servers, Waitresses, etc. We work hard & we deserve it!

  64. Gregor Reti

    As long there are no more “affordable housing” units in LA available or grew up up with a sizeable trust fund – your suggestions are YOUTOPIAN. And please readers, don’t export those wacky numbers to other countries or you ruin their expectations and working moral.

  65. Patrick

    The food delivery bit didn’t take into account what to tip when there’s already a delivery charge. If I order $35 worth of food and they charge $5 for delivery, am I supposed to tip $7 (20% of $35) on top of the delivery charge? $2 (the difference between the 20% and the mandated $5)? Anything at all because they’ve already set a delivery charge? This has always been my conundrum.

    Btw, I usually tip 15% if there’s a delivery charge, 20% if there’s not.

  66. This tipping thing has gotten out of hand. I’ve become so offended by the “tip for ANYTHING and EVERYTHING” entitled mentality, that I’ve pretty much stopped going out for drinks and meals and have cut back on services that now demand tips. I now cook and have dinner parties at my home (nope, didn’t tip the grocery stock clerk, cashier or bagger), cocktail parties (again, didn’t tip the liquor store clerk for ringing me up or for his artisanally-chilled ice). The result? Both the businesses we often patronized and their employees now have fewer customers (myself and my dinner/cocktails friends), hence less income and if others follow suit, will have no business or jobs left. Keep trying to strong-arm the consumer for “mandatory” tips and we’ll simply opt out.

  67. In the EU there is not a “tipless” society – they work 18-22% into the bill once you site down. It’s called a service charge. London just recently started doing it adding 12.5% . The fast food workers and bar workers also get paid minimum wage £5.30 (18-20 yo). Lesson learned is do not rely on a job that relies only on tips. Learn how to code and you will never be skint!

  68. 20%! Are you kidding me? Tips are earned and not automatic. I agree with a lot of comments above that counter service does not need to be tipped. Apparently, the writer of this article walks around with loads of cash. I use credit cards for almost everything and carry little cash. I’m not about the change that. If people are working jobs in which they are tipped and are not happy about it, they should get a better education and find and well paid job. Professionals do not expect tips.

  69. DSands

    Is this writer serious! I’ve come to the decision
    not to supplement workers salary as the price
    of food and service is substantially high.
    I will leave what I think is good enough
    otherwise I don’t leave anything. Our
    system needs a change with the cost of
    living being sky high

  70. There seems to be a lot of anger over a fluff piece of on-line fodder; I don’t think anyone was suggesting that these tips are mandatory. To me it sounds like this writer is offering her opinions on modern day tip-etiquette. Although I agree with some of the comments here that tipping is out of control (I recently saw a tip cup pop-up at my dry cleaners, for instance). But I worked in the restaurant industry for years and with the exception of a diner or a sandwich spot, if you work at a nice restaurant you put a tremendous amount of effort into what you have to learn and the multi-tasking skills it takes to give people a great dining experience…not to mention, that they make barely anything and have to tip out their support staff based on the tips they get (bussers, wait assistants, bartenders, and in some cases you are required to tips out chefs, like if you work at a sushi place). They are definitely crappy servers out there, especially in LA where a lot of them are just biding their time until they become stars, however a lot of people take food, wine, and cocktails very seriously and work hard to bring that passion to the people that dine at their restaurants. Please don’t let a few bad attitudes ruin the way you feel about all of them. I’m choosing the glass 1/2 full. Thanks for reading.

  71. Claire

    I like some of what people say here, but others sound like they are shaped by some bad experience. While I agree that tipping at some places is out of control and that counter service expecting high tips could be taken as an insult to real restaurant professionals…I don’t recall the article saying that anyone expects what Daisy is “SUGGESTING”. I find it sad that so many people sound so bitter in these comments. Cash flow is cyclical and what goes into the economy, then goes into other areas of the economy and other businesses, etc. (people who make tips also pay taxes on said tips which goes to pay for things in the US that taxes are used for) I don’t think we should all just throw money around tipping willy-nilly but use your best judgment. If you hate tipping and refuse to do it, then do what one poster is doing and don’t go to places that are traditional based on tips like restaurants or bars.

  72. Workers should be paid adequately by employers but they’re not, that’s the reality. This article is a good guide to how to not be a dick. You wanna be a dick, please continue to do so, I hope your future service is adjusted accordingly. Don’t like it, don’t utilize services. All quite simple. Nobody is forcing overpriced Moscow mules down your throat or forcing you to have a person do all your grocery shopping for you. As it happens, those are choices.

  73. After reading this ridiculously long list, I proceeded to read the comments. And an overwhelming majority feel the same as myself, that tipping in this country is out of control. I think the only people you didn’t include were mechanics and financial advisors. The tip is included almost anywhere outside of the U.S. And restaurants and other small businesses seem to do just fine with this system. The point of Uber is to avoid getting ripped off, and then you want us to return to the corrupt system of taxi companies.
    I am a generous tipper normally. But recently I was told by the waitstaff, at a restaurant that includes a service charge, that I still need to tip 15-20%? Yet it said nothing on the menu about this, nor was it on the check. If I see a service charge added, I’m supposed to double tip? Why can’t the establishment just make it part of the bill, and call it a day. I don’t think anyone appreciates that level of confusion when enjoying a night out. I found this behavior embarrassing for myself, and even more embarrassing for the owner and staff. So where do we draw the line?
    I think it’s the business’ job to make sure their staff is paid a sufficient wage, so that they go home happy whether it was a busy night or a slow one. I think Uber should increase the share their drivers receive, like it was when they first launched. It’s unlikely that a company this big is having a hard time turning a profit. The drivers were very happy the first year I rode with them. And now I continually hear how they’ve whittled away at the driver compensations. I want to see everyone paid a living wage, and I think it should fall a bit more on the employer’s side. Pass the cost on to the customers in the final bill so it’s standardized. I’m fine with that. Good job Daisy! And happy tipping.

    I thank the author of this article for opening my eyes to how exaggerated and out of control the tipping culture has become. You’ve inspired me to make my own coffee at home, groom my own dog, and curb habits where gratuities have become the rule. Your list has helped me to quickly itemize and curtail my overspending ways.

  74. Sarah Edwards

    What about for take-out? And delivery while we’re at it…maybe you covered at least the later…I had a wealthy boss who was president who tiped nothing on take out, but I always feel like 10% or $5.
    At the end of the day you’re saying tip for the price of a latte or a dinner out–so yeah–drink less lattes and cook more at home/budget at the grocery store and be a classy, generous person. The people in service rely on tips to survive.

  75. Robert

    I agree that we should eliminate the tipping culture, and businesses should pay fair wages. In the meantime, it is annoying, but when in Rome (or NYC in this case)!

  76. Is this article a satire? As others have noted, tipping is a reward for someone doing their job well or going above and beyond. The expectation of a fixed amount of tip for doing the bare minimum for your job title is ridiculous. This whole tipping culture has gotten out of hand.

  77. Wow, I better stop using some of these services… Or ask for a raise. This tipping thing is getting out of hand. Why go to school and owe thousands in student loans if you can just work for tips??? Or be a beggar… Some of these tipped professionals for sure make a lot more $ than me who hold a Master’s Degree…

  78. I disagree with your tipping. Like my friend said when I asked her if she tips–she said NO they get paid. Why should we tip when they do get a salary. This is wrong and I will not do it! I don’t get tipped for my non-paid internship. And neither should all these people. This is asinine!

  79. Jorge Garcia

    Tipping is for when the individual or group has gone above what is required of them. NOT FOR SIMPLY DOING THEIR JOB. I do not subsidize labor, if you feel you do not earn enough get another job to supplement your earnings. I never have seen people so lazy to earn. I brought you a drink, now where is my tip!? Shit is getting ridiculous.

  80. Nicole

    $2 a night for the housekeeper in a hotel? These are the hardest working staff members at any good hotel! They change your sheets, clean your pee from the toilet, your hair from the bathtub drain, wipe your spit from the bathroom sink, vacuum all your crumbs off the floor and do it while using harsh chemicals. They do this for 8 hours a day. If you are going to tip at a hotel and you should tip these staff members. Remember how hard they work and leave them something nice! Especially if you left the room a mess. I am not a housekeeper but my mom was and I have never seen hard working women in my life (at her hotel it was all women housekeepers.)

  81. There are plenty of areas where income fairness is controversial.

    When a service industry employee buys an expensive smartphone, do they find a way to make sure that the cheap Chinese labor is fairly compensated for assembling that phone (which normally would take them one or more months of income to afford)?

    I suspect the way that they feel about their responsibility in that situation is similar to how many Americans feel about their responsibility when buying an expensive latte or drink.

    It’s important to have these conversations, but it’s also important to understand where the bulk of the responsibility of paying and getting paid fairly resides. The free market solution available to the population is not to subsidize the employee’s compensation for the employer but to leverage buying power (customer), selling power (laborer), and political power (everyone) to demand better conditions. To do so requires organized boycotts, labor groups, or political movements. The reliance of employers on the tipping system exists because we the customers have allowed it to exist, and any purely rational economic actor would take advantage of it. Therefore the solution to an overly complicated tipping system is not to memorize a complicated list of rules, but to stop tipping (as customers) and demand better compensation (as laborers). Instead of us saying ‘this is the bad system we have’, let’s change it.

  82. Got a good laugh reading this, tourists please don’t take this advice to heart. Spouse and I
    are former New Yorkers of 10+ yrs and did not tip this extravagantly. We were in the combined 400k bracket (not rich by NY standards) and our even better off friends did not throw a dollar here and a dollar there so blindly. However for employees intimate to you (babysitter nanny doorman golf caddies) those prices are appropriate, even conservative. This is why New Yorkers don’t engage (see the bathroom attendant bullet) bc they know if you talk to someone that means they expect money from you.

  83. If this is supposed to be about NYC I’m surprised laundry delivery service was left out. And, like many of the other comments, a lot of this can be resolved if workers are paid a fair wage. In the absence of that, I still tip and usually generously, but if the service is bad that is most definitely reflected in the tip.

  84. Tipping is getting way out of hand. It is supposed to be a reward for a job well done, not an expectation. Good servers get 20-25%, but an average one will get no more than 15% out of me. When I was a server I busted my butt hoping for the big tips by doing everything I could to provide exceptional service. My lazy ass buddy did the minimum and expected 15-20%. Unfortunately, he got it most of the time because patrons often feel pressured not to be “cheap”. Fortunately, pressure doesn’t bother me.

  85. Chelsea

    The answer is NO! Enough with this entitlement culture. What I leave is up to my discretion. The gaul of anyone to EXPECT anything more than the wage they agreed to accept when taking the job. I am not going to allow pressures from “society” to tell me how to spend my hard earned money. It was 15% then crept to 18% and now 20%!! When is it going to be 25%? Think about that – every time you eat at a wealthy person’s restaurant – in addition to the meal there is a 25% surcharge to pay their employees? Wake up people!!

  86. I moved to Scandinavia about 8 years ago (from Canada) and recently visited NYC – and was shocked about all the expected tips. Over here (Scandinavia) there’s no tipping culture – it’s starting to creep in as a trendy fad in some places but generally, people just get paid properly and do their job. At first it was a huge difference for me in the type of service I received, no bouncy over the top happy caffeine fuelled people trying to please you to get a tip but now, I appreciate the authenticity and calm that come with going out for a coffee or a meal or a taxi ride or whatever else was on this list. Honestly, prices for things are so high (in America), tipping on top of that is crazy, now you’re paying $6 for a cup of coffee after tip, think about that for a minute – and I live in one of the most expensive countries in the world, and that is too much for me. What can be done? How does one change the culture of workers who scramble constantly to win the approval of their customers to get a tip (or their bosses to keep their job based on shared tips) instead, to a society where people are paid well enough that they don’t need tips?

  87. I went into a Manhattan restaurant and had one of the rudest servers I have ever seen. They seated us from the bar so we brought our drinks. Her first comment was “trying to beat the tip?” We already tipped the bartender. Service was inattentive and rude. No water, napkins or cutlery on table. We had to ask. We also had to ask for Menus(10 minutes). We tried to flag her down and was ignored. We flagged down another server and she came charging over to tell us we couldn’t do that. She got 15% deserved 5 or less. She complained about the tip. Called over the manager and proceeded to explain the bad service and rudeness and pointed out the we gave her more than she deserved. He agreed. She got pissed off and stormed off. The cold truth is, if you are an absolute shit to your customers, you don’t deserve a decent tip. You are lucky to get anything. If you give great service, you should get a great tip. I have given 25% for stellar service but it is very rare to see service that good any more.

  88. Why do we have to tip 20% to the waiters and less to the delivery boys? It’s unfair, delivery people in NYC are risking their life so you can be comfortable in your house.
    If you want the luxury, pay for it!

  89. Jordan

    A certain someone posting on June 14th has clearly never worked in an SF bar or restaurant. And, I’m not surprised by all the aghast responses, since I do, and people are pretty cheap about tips here in general.

    So, to the sir or madame with the name similar to what Electrical Engineers are nicknamed posting on 6/14, and to all the other folks so that his/her estimates are not taken for gospel:

    NO, bartenders and servers in SF do NOT make $500 (“mostly cash”) on any given weekend night, not even the most insane ones. I’ve worked on Union St during Union St. fest for a 9hr shift, and made $200 in tips on day, ~$150 the next day of Union St. fest. SF bartenders and servers *used to make upwards of $300 or more, back before and after the first dotcom boom, but that has steadily decreased, and now one is lucky to make more than $200. *Most nights, gross tips are in the $100’s. Which breaks down to basically a little spending money, and a small bank deposit; $200’s for really high volume nights.

    Don’t believe any posts that state numbers much disparate of that.

  90. Jordan

    It’s good that the reasonable posters are saying things like, tip decent for decent service, tip well for really good service. That’s reasonable, and that’s what I do.

    The soul-sucking ones are the ones that seem to be flaming the concept of tipping, and making it out like it’s dichotomous: like they’ll tip *something if the amazingly superlative, but if the service is just decent-good, they shouldn’t even have to tip a penny. Yeah, f those servers and bartenders for not giving me a dog and pony show, I’ll just give them nothing.

    Maybe you guys’ who are implying that just aren’t using the best verbiage to express your thoughts, but when statements such as “tips shouldn’t be expected” (so 0%?), “you shouldn’t tip for someone just doing their job” (Ok, so you go to a restaurant, sit for an hour, eat, drink, get served, but don’t get “above and beyond service”, so you give what?…0, 5, 10%).

    It’s not that black and white folks. You can’t just say someone doesn’t deserve sh*t because they didn’t flock all over you like you were the only people in the establishment? That’s entitlement relative to labeling “expecting a tip” as entitlement. It’s a continuum. And seriously, we’re talking about on a $40 tab where you received solid service sans dog and pony show, the difference between being cheap and giving $4, and being generous and appreciative for what that person did, and giving $6, 7, 8, more. What’s $3-4 vs the $40 you spent?

  91. Johnny

    I’m an Uber driver and if I don’t get a tip I rate the passenger 1 Star, and I’m not the only driver that does this. So for all you cheap people on here: good luck when your uber rating is so low that no driver wants to take you.

  92. Desiree Chase

    This is a whole lot of money to consistently give away to ppl who are already paid to provide these services, albeit not paid much, BUT that weight should not fall on the consumer to make up for what companies cannot provide to its hard-working employees. I will continue to tip adequately AT MY DISCRETION and Based on each individual service experience.

  93. I have never heard of so much complaining and bickering over tip before Uber showed up. People used to tip before according to the level of service and never complained. Uber spoiled y’all. Taxi/Limo/black car drivers have always been tipped. Now you will be lucky even if you get $10 tip per week. People always complain about how shitty NYC yellow cab drivers’ service/driving/and attitude is. Yet they still tip them. 9 out of 10 uber drivers would give you better service than the best yellow cab driver and y’all complain about tipping that driver. Uber really really really messed y’all up. Better yet they messed up the whole tipping culture along with the whole car service industry.

  94. Stephanie

    Thanks for the article. I found it to be very helpful. I am always one to tip generously but with all the new apps & services it has been a bit confusing. I am someone who has worked in the service industry for over 20 years now. As a seasoned hairstylist I can tell you that tips are income I rely on. There is no medical insurance, 401k, PTO’s or stock options available to me. These are luxuries I have to create out of pocket, never mind the amount of overhead I am constantly investing in. There is the cost of color, shear sharpening, continued education, and booth rental. In SF, my chair costs more then my share of the rent in the 1 bedroom apt where I live with my husband whom is also a contractor (personal trainer). In a perfect society all these options would be available to us but it’s not and until then please tip your service provider, we depend on it! We appreciate you and want to keep you happy. Customer service is not easy and not a job to be taken lightly!

  95. Tipster

    Absolutely ridiculous! I strongly suspect that in real life the writer does not tip well. Thus the ignorance. I ended up was looking for a tip jar to click on the page… not entirely joking.

  96. I’m surprised at the hostility toward tipping running rampant through the comments. Service industry employees are hugely underpaid, Not tipping is cheap, rude, selfish, and nasty. C’mon, people. Be kinder to your fellow humans who are on their feet all day, rarely with health insurance or retirement plans, who are directly servicing you. Compassion and kindness, please.

  97. Shamrokz

    What about my tip for taking your b/p at the doctors office? Or drawing your blood for testing? Or the tired lady who comes into your hospital room to change the garbage? What about the store clerk who rings up your groceries and puts them in bags according to type and weight? Are we tipping everybody now?

  98. trapstar

    Tipping has gotten out of hand. It is no longer a bonus for going above and beyond the job, and has become “mandatory” in our society and expected by the staff… which is terrible. Every middle-class American works hard for their money, and those not in the restaurant industry often have to go above and beyond their job description just to KEEP their jobs without the hope of a bonus or raise.

    A quick Google search of a waiter’s job description includes these basic items across many sites:

    Take orders and serve food and beverages to patrons at tables in dining establishment.
    Be professional and friendly (even in tough situations), and be a team player.
    Check patrons’ identification in order to ensure that they meet minimum age requirements for consumption of alcoholic beverages.
    Check with customers to ensure that they are enjoying their meals and take action to correct any problems.
    Escort customers to their tables.
    Explain how various menu items are prepared, describing ingredients and cooking methods.
    Inform customers of daily specials.
    Prepare checks that itemize and total meal costs and sales taxes.
    Present menus to patrons and answer questions about menu items, making recommendations upon request.
    Remove dishes and glasses from tables or counters, and take them to kitchen for cleaning.
    Serve food and/or beverages to patrons; prepare and serve specialty dishes at tables as required.

    As far as customers should be concerned, none of this should require a tip. This is basic. A waiter should come to work, no matter how shitty their day, ready to handle these basic tasks. Even if one makes a mistake or a misstep on one or a couple of these, it’s okay. S/he may even deserve a tip if they excelled in another area or did something else to go above and beyond their duties… but over all, s/he should NEVER EXPECT a tip.

    Additionally, there was a time not even that long ago when 10% was the minimum “suggested” and 15% expected. Now our society has assumed 20% as the minimum REQUIRED? When did that happen?

    You could say that if a customer does not agree tipping should be expected, they should just not go out to eat. And if that was possible in our society to not be a social outcast, I’m sure many would make that choice. Unfortunately, that is not a possibility.

    To survive socially, or even often professionally, eating and/or drinking at a restaurant or bar is necessary. And once out, now to continue to be accepted within that group socially or professionally, s/he must tip 20+% out of his or her own pocket, even if the waiter may have phoned in his job.

    Having said all this, I am in that group. I will go out because I like to be social. Because I need to keep my job. And because I am out, I will be prepared to tip whether I can afford it or not, because that is what is expected in our society. But I will say one thing, I have been known to tip 15% on subpar service… or even no tip at all for bad service.

    Something needs to give though. If the government won’t step in and require standard minimum wage for restaurant staff, then we as a society need to get together and stop EXPECTED MANDATORY tipping. As customers, we should require excellent service before tipping. Eventually, restaurant owners will be required to pay their staff more. Yes, the food will get more expensive on paper, but won’t it all just even out at the end? At least then I’ll know going in how much I’ll be expected to pay by looking at the menu.

  99. Philip

    Manicurist/Pedicurist/Masseuse/Waxer/Etc??

    I am not discounting any one profession from the other. 1st, it is License Massage Therapist, Not Masseuse!

    Suggesting 15% at the lowest is ridiculous. Let me leave you with this thought in mind. LMT pay the average $20-30K just to get their education and license to be a massage therapist. If one call themselves Masseuse, they are not license. They spend the entire time of your appointment, all focus on your. ALL of the entire time. If you thing tipping anywhere below 20% is under tipping.
    If their work in not to your liking or your preference, still no less than 20% as they do work very hard. If you are very happy with their work, 25% is being appreciative and 30% shows they have done an amazing job. 20% is the standard.

  100. Jacqueline Young-de Roover

    I don’t think what you have printed for tips is correct. If I receive good service, I will tip but as some San Francisco restaurants already have tips written in their prices, I don’t tip on top of it. When I do receive bad service and I have in quite a few places, the servers are lucky they get a penny in a glass of water or no tip at all. That should tell the server his/hser service was bad. Telling the manager won’t do anything at all. As for delivery, it’s a joke what you advise. I tip whatever I wish and most times I’m pretty generous but tips are earned not a “have to”!

  101. James Roman

    You missed one important category: Wine Service in a costly restaurant. The 20% gratuity that’s applicable to waiters does not apply here. (If I buy a $1000 bottle of champagne, I’m not paying another $200 to the guy who popped the cork!) I’m told that a flat rate of $25 per bottle is acceptable, whether it’s my waiter or a dedicated Wine Steward. A waiter’s tip is based on the food delivery. Wine is a separate category, I think. What say you?

  102. Here’s a quick rewrite of this article: Blah, blah, blah, tip more.

    Consider the comment about tipping the shampooer. OK, fine, tip her. But since your cutter/colorer DIDN’T provide that service, then the tip to the shampooer should come out of the tip to the cutter/colorer.

    Also, the minimum wage has frequently been called too low to live on and a reason for higher tips (despite the fact no one has ever received service from a dead person). So as the minimum wage goes up, tips can go down. In a place like SF, there is a hefty meal tax that subsidizes many restaurant workers. When you run into that, that is another substitute for tips. It’s real money, it goes to employees, end of story.

  103. MichaelZ

    This is a ludicrous article. It is the job of the employer to pay his employees a living wage. Tips should be illegal and create excuses for more exploitation of the most vulnerable in society. Leave no tip and if there is a complaint redirects it to the employer. And by the way, do not expect service that is above what should be expected from a poorly paid job. Slavery has been abolished a long time ago.

  104. Call me old fashioned but tips began as a way for a customer of any service to say thanks for a job well done and/or for being so friendly and efficient and so on. Now we are expected to tip outrageous amounts to anyone we buy goods or services from? Nope. If you provide bad service or treat me with anything but kindness, interest, and respect you get nothing. If you provide the service efficiently, know your product, and act like you care by being present and respectful I will tip accordingly at any percentage I see fitting. If you are new at the job and make a million mistakes but I can see you are trying and doing all you can to make my experience a good one I will tip you well. I am a very generous tipper when the service provider is amazing giving sometimes 50% or more. People EARN their tips. They are not ENTITLED to them. And F_ _ _ their employers for paying low wages with the assumption the customer will make up the difference.

  105. How about getting rid of a tip standard and tip according to quality of service provided. Shit service = little or no tip, good service = comparable tip. Done.

  106. In Japan, when you pick up something at a store and the price on it is ¥1000 (close enough to $10) you you reach into your pocket and hand the cashier ¥1000. When you go to a restaurant, and the food item on the menu that you want is listed at ¥1500, when you finish eating you and the waitress ¥1500. They pay their people real wages and taxes are figured into the price. You absolutely know exactly how much you are spending. So much easier. And so much easier to control your spending.

  107. Having waitressed my way through college. Having worked as a waitress at catered events, as an Engineering Manager after buying my first house on weekends – yep, wanted to point that out so that you do not think I am a snob. This article is complete BS! You tip for exceptional service it is not an entitlement! If you have terrible service you write it on the credit card receipt that you signed what went wrong – and as a past waitress even while being an Engineering Manger I have many times tipped ZERO and explained why. On the other end of the spectrum, when I receive out standing service I tip in Cash up to 50% and I explain the server that I am putting down zero and hand them the cash. It is tip for service. As a waitress I would always go out of my way and it showed up in my tips – often extremely large tips like the ones I now give. It is not an entitlement! I am now married and my husband (though we both are successful execs making equal six figure jobs) will get upset with how much I tip when I go way over board for awesome service so I will catch her and hand her an extra $20 or $40 in addition to a 30% tip as I “go to the ladies room.” This goes for all the other categories above! When I get my hair done and it is awesome I am in the 40% tip range. It is a tip and it needs to be merit based. At the same be nice to your servers not snobby … and then reward (or don’t reward and clearly spell out on your receipt) accordingly. This article above is a self entitled piece of garbage that does a dis-service to all those in the service industry. Love your job or don’t be in the service industry. I will tell you I love being a waitress – if you don’t love being a waitress don’t be one. It is like every job be so good at your job that they can’t live without you. Remember that catering job when I was an Engineering Manager, already had my MBA and had bought my first house on my own- I continued doing that after the financial stress of the new house was over. I was just part time, and the owner of the restaurant (a Great famous chef) and his wife asked me to be one of the few to work THEIR WEDDING … huge honor. So love your work … working as a waitress is far more fun than the corporate world if you are sweet to people and go the extra mile! You will love your job, if the kitchen is behind (explain it to your customers), if you make a mistake explain and apologize to that sincerity and honesty … you will see your pockets filled with cash!

  108. Rae Claire

    Tipping has gotten out of hand! And articles like this, that purport to be guides, merely exacerbate the problem. I tend to take public transit, not eat out, and not have other folks take care of my bodily luxuries, partly due to disgust with the whole tipping culture. The “tip jars” I see here and there burn me up. You get a tip if you serve me at a table, not just for handing me something over a counter and making change .

  109. Fuck this, why tip people who chose these shitty service jobs. I can do all of this shit myself for free. I will tip bartenders, servers, barber, maybe taxi, that’s it. The rest of this is rediculous.

  110. Errr. NO~! its not 20% at a restaurant for no reason… , it is 15% for standard service. 20% for nice service, 10% for less than standard service. tipping more than 20% is stupid unless you really worked that waitress!.

  111. This article is so stupid and retarded tipping is a stupid American idea that the rest of the world is to smart to copy people should only get tipped if that is their only income not if they’re being paid an hourly rate after all they are only doing the job that they were hired and paid to do. Hello morons why not tip your dr for seeing you when your sick.

  112. 15% is the standard American tip. I was a hard-working server for years (wait person, food runner, etc) for years and that was fair unless I gave exceptional service. More is way too much. I’m starting to feel scammed when Square and the credit card companies present upwards of 20% as options for tips. I wish every restaurant had tip-sharing for the whole server and kitchen staff. Anyway, I feel it’s best to leave a cash tip directly with the server and pay the bill with your credit card. https://squareup.com/pricing http://www.inc.com/erik-sherman/square-hikes-fees-so-where-else-can-you-go.html https://www.nerdwallet.com/blog/small-business/save-credit-card-processing-fees/

  113. Natasha

    you forgot to tip your Massage Therapist! 20% of full advertised price is customary. An exceptional therapist who takes greet care of you gets more. If you hire a self-employed MT, you can ask–some work for tips, some set prices high enough, When self-employed MTs go above and beyond for you, tipping is appropriate.

  114. 15% is the standard American tip. I was a hard-working server for years (wait person, food runner, etc) for years and that was fair unless I gave exceptional service. More is way too much. I’m starting to feel scammed when Square and the credit card companies present upwards of 20% as options for tips. I wish every restaurant had tip-sharing for the whole server and kitchen staff. Anyway, I feel it’s best to leave a cash tip directly with the server and pay the bill with your credit card. https://squareup.com/pricing http://www.inc.com/erik-sherman/square-hikes-fees-so-where-else-can-you-go.html https://www.nerdwallet.com/blog/small-business/save-credit-card-processing-fees/ PS Agree with Cazador’s comment. I’ve seen the excessive calculations for 20% tips include the tax. That’s a scam.

  115. Tip this

    This article is completely ridiculous. Just got back from Europe and it made me realize (even more) how WAY over the top tipping in general is in the US. And I can’t justify tipping for half of these things when the services are already overpriced…otherwise, where would one draw the line. Do you tip for doctors, lawyers, architects, car sales persons, airline hosts, and cashiers at department stores? All of these people provide some level of service…
    And I too, use Uber specifically because it’s so streamlined…!!!

  116. Very enlightening comments. At first I bookmarked this article under “Financial” but I changed it to “Anthropology” after reading through all the comments. (I’m an anthropologist…)

  117. I LOVE TIPPING!! WHY?? Because a customer rewards great service an hard work. It’s in your control. IF you really care about others you do this. The guy who shines my shoes and does a great job, may get $10. tip. It awards good work. Some of you like the European model and you are nuts. Have you ever been to a restaurant in most countries. I do not tip everyone. Tips for great service get a comment and a huge tip, 30-50% if someone is really great. If not, you get nothing or small tip. PAY FOR PERFORMANCE! I am now 45, and very financially comfortable, but in my youth I was a waiter etc. I got fantastic tips. I tired really hard to do a great job. IF YOU SUCK YOU GET NOTHING. Why do we have a sense of entitlement n this country. That is not what makes the USA exceptional. IF you want mediocre everything then give the businesses the power of tipping You will get worse service and the GOOD employee will get screwed while the lazy shits get what they don’t deserve. WORK hard give a shit and get rewarded. I do think you have a moral responsibility to reward great work and thank people for it. Acknowledging great work from anyone, waiter, policeman etc is important. BTW i don’t care who you are or what background, everyone has challenges get over it and make it happen.

  118. Why some people expect to get extra money for doing their jobs? If so, shall we tip soldiers on the battle fields? Shall we tip scientists spending days and nights in the lab? Shall we tip astronauts for spending months in the space? None of these jobs is easier than any one mentioned in this article!

  119. They could do away with tipping….but then they would have to charge alot more for the service. I’m a barber and I pretty much expect atleast $5 tip unless you appear to be struggling. I charge $25 a haircut but if tipping wasn’t a thing, I’d have to charge $30-40 for the cut cause as is, to get the hourly I desire I would need to charge that much. For all you cheap bastards out there… Tips can be tax deductible. . J/s. Furthermore, if you frequent a place and never tip, you can expect shittier service…. You get what you pay for

  120. It’s so clear from their comments, that the douche bags that do NOT tip, are the overpaid jackasses that believe they’re better human beings, simply because they earned their masters degree . Or, rather their ” Mommy& Daddy” earned it for them, by paying for their education, and so the cycle continues of overpriveledged, under qualified morons in the highest wage earning positions, like lawyers and doctors, etc. I believe one pc of shit “Micheal” “Malcolm”, whatever, said : “Go back to school & get a better job that pays more & you wont need to ask me for tips”. One more cookie cutter yuppie dick wad, or another. Not everyone is mentally cut out to sit behind a desk and push papers all day, so they, like myself, might choose something with a tad more creativity, like a stylist , etc. And it is correct, many salon owners, and service business owners, the like, absolutely do gouge their stylists/employees, and eat away their paychecks, to where tipping is a necessity! Every hair color I do, per color or tone, eats away another $5.50-8.00 from my portion of the profit. So I make NOwhere near the standard 50% anymore. I do go above and beyond in service ALWAYS, that’s why ppl come back to me. But if you overpaid pieces of human excrement that make six figure salaries, actually THOUGHT about the person providing your service, and how much mental, physical, and emotional energy it takes, to pamper your overpriveledged stupid asses, you might actually open your wallet and show your appreciation, occasionally! And not insult the person by pulling $3 out of the pocket of your $2K suit. That being said, I do NOT believe in paying 20% to a barista who made my overpriced coffee! Making a drink for 30 seconds, and standing over someone for 30minutes to 4hrs, doing their hair, or a massage, is a very very different thing! Only since Starbucks’ birth of the incredibly overpriced coffees, has tipping for counter service been a “thing”. I’ll tip my change for that, or if provided good service, and the person actually makes eye contact with me. If you’re rude and socially retarded, it’s not my responsibility to tip you for the flawed uncomfortable service you just gave me. And those ppl, it would probably behoove, to get a a different job.

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