Many parents get puzzled over the radical change in their child when they transit from primary to secondary school. The key factor is actually due to the tremendous brain development that takes place during the puberty change. Parents who stick to the same formula they applied during earlier years in attending to their teens often face even worse backlash.
The key to effective parenting the teens require a deeper understanding in knowing how teens develop when they cross puberty and specifically in how their brain development at this stage impacts their behaviours. With this understanding, parents could then apply more coaching approach to develop a much more collaborative way for parenting without too many hearts stopping moments.