$250 – $420

Stage Two Change Events: Getting Clearer, Going Deeper

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The Olympic Collection Banquet & Conference Center

11301 West Olympic Boulevard

Los Angeles, CA 90064

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The Stage 2 Change Events of EFT (Johnson, 2004) are the heart of the model. Each partner’s change event deepens from Stage 1 to re-structure the couple’s bond (Stage 2 goal). You will learn the interventions needed to re-engage the withdrawing partner and soften the pursuing partner and the research and rationale behind the interventions and process of change. The Experiencing Scale (Klein, Mathieu, Gendlin & Kiesler, 1969) will be taught to inform your clinical decisions.


Exploring the stage 2 change events (Withdrawer Reengagement & Pursuer Softening) including the essential skills needed to help your couples re-structure their bonds. Through teaching, videos, and exercises, the presenters will help you learn how to heighten each partner's emotions, when to incorporate “parts” work including View of Self and View of Other, and how to help each partner complete the risk, reach, and respond that is vital to successfully shifting their interactional pattern. Since completing both change events can be a challenge, self-of-the-therapist issues will also be explored.

This training, based on eight Task Analysis studies of the two Stage 2 Change Events of EFT, is for the advanced EFT clinician since it extends the theory and practice of EFT. By combining the research on the practice of these Stage 2 Change Events with actual clinical cases, this training provides a deep dive into Stage 2 of EFT.


Attendees will be able to:

1. Describe the hallmarks of de-escalation and assess the readiness of moving into Stage 2.
2. Explain the need to pace the intrapsychic exploration for each partner: when to contain and when to heighten emotion.
3. Explain how to work through Steps 5, 6, & 7 with both Withdrawers and Pursuers.
4. Describe the interventions required for successful completion of both change events.
5. Describe the qualities of sufficient depth of emotional experiencing required for each change event.
6. Define withdrawer reengagement and pursuer softening
7. Explain, from an overview perspective, the research behind each change event that informs the process of each change event.
8. Describe how to move from withdrawer reengagement to pursuer softening
9. List some challenges presented by pursuers and withdrawers.
10. List key processing skills as highlighted on videos
11. List three statements that could be demonstrative of “parts” work.
12. Describe two obstacles and/or impasse situations and how you could respond to them.
13. Describe one or two common self-of-therapist issues that can emerge during Stage 2 change events.


*LACEFT Member Early Bird Pricing: $380 (available through May 17, 2019)
*Non-Member Early Bird Pricing: $420 (available through May 17, 2019)
*Student Early Bird Pricing: $250 (available through May 17, 2019)

**LACEFT Member Regular Ticket: $420 (available after May 17, 2019)
**Non-Member Regular Ticket: $460 (available after May 17, 2019)
**Student Regular Ticket: $300 (available after May 17, 2019)


Participants may earn 12 CE credits for attending the entire program.

Partial credits will not be offered.

LACEFT is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. LACEFT is also an approved provider of continuing education by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists for LMFTs, LCSWs, and LPCs.

LACEFT maintains responsibility for this program and its content.


Refunds, less a $50 administration fee, will be issued for requests made on or before May 10, 2019. We will not issue refunds that are requested after May 10, 2019.


Friday, June 7th: 9:45-6:00 (breakfast/registration at 9:15)

9:45am – 10:30pm: Intro and brief overview of EFT
10:30am – 10:45am: Break
10:45am – 11:30pm: Define withdrawer reengagement
11:30am – 11:45pm: Break
11:45pm – 12:45pm: Withdrawer reengagement continued
12:45pm – 2:00pm: Lunch
2:00pm – 3:00pm: Process of withdrawer reengagement in relationship with Steps 5, 6, &7
3:00pm – 3:15pm: Break
3:15pm – 4:15pm: Depth of emotional experiencing
4:15pm – 4:30pm: Break
4:30pm – 6:00pm: Video of withdrawer reengagement including exercises for each participant

Saturday, June 8th: 8:45-5:00 (breakfast at 8:15)

8:45am – 9:30am: Moving from withdrawer reengagement to pursuer softening,
9:30am – 9:45am: Break
9:45am – 10:30am: Challenges with pursuers vs. withdrawers
10:30am – 10:45am: Break
10:45am – 11:45pm: Review of mini-theory of pursuer softening
11:45pm – 1:00pm: Lunch break
1:00pm – 2:00pm: Key processing skills as highlighted on videos including exercises for each participant
2:00pm – 2:15pm: Break
2:15pm – 3:15pm: Working with parts, obstacles and impasses
3:15pm – 3:30pm: Break
3:30pm – 5:00pm: Self-of-therapist specifically related to Stage 2 change events


A continental breakfast, snacks, water, and coffee will be provided, but lunch will be on your own. There are many restaurants within walking distance.


Dr. Marlene Best is a registered psychologist, and ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer and Supervisor.  At the Ottawa Couple and Family Institute, she provides EFT therapy and supervision.  Marlene is also a Clinical Professor at the School of Psychology at the University of Ottawa, where she teaches EFT for couples and individuals, and provides clinical supervision to Ph.D. practicum students and interns who are learning EFT.  She won the student-nominated award for excellence in clinical supervision in 2016.  Marlene is known for her warmth and ability to create a very safe, open learning environment; her clear, structured teaching style; her interest in and attention to issues relating to person-of-the-therapist; her focus on therapeutic process skills; and, her ability to offer helpful encouraging feedback in a clear, empathic manner.

Kathryn Rheem, Ed.D., LMFT, Director of the WBCEFT, works extensively with couples where one or both partners have endured trauma and has written and presented on the application of EFT with trauma numerous times. Additionally, she has a special passion for working with and teaching the Withdrawer Re-engagement process. For her doctoral dissertation, Kathryn completed the first analysis of Withdrawer Re-engagement, and she enjoys teaching clinicians how to come alongside and work with Withdrawers.



11301 Olympic Blvd.
Los Angeles, CA 90064

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