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Shifting Shame, Releasing Fear ~ Berlin
Sat, Apr 8, 2017, 9:30 AM – Sun, Apr 9, 2017, 1:00 PM CEST
Most of us aren’t aware of the shame that sits in our body. We call it something more socially acceptable. We say things like … “I feel embarrassed, confused, overwhelmed, unsure, stupid, silly, upset, hurt …”
And yet … what lies underneath these emotions is often a deep, painful, debilitating sense of shame, of somehow feeling wrong. Even though we may not call it that, our heart knows the deep ache of not feeling good enough, not having enough, not belonging, not being understood, not being seen, not being loved, not being free.
The worst part? The shame in our bodies has become so “normal”, we think there is no other way, and the cycle continues.
Shame exists in the areas we are most vulnerable
It could be that…
- Your business is going incredibly well, but you feel lonely and ashamed because you don’t have a life partner. Or maybe you continue to pick the wrong one and always end up hurt and alone.
- You have a terrific family but you’ve lost yourself in being the wonderful wife and caring mother. You no longer know who you are or what you wish for outside of their lives.
- You’ve boldly quit your job and have put everything on the line to pursue your creative passion, but it’s just not getting off the ground. Self-doubt is seeping in.
- You’ve taken care of your health all your life, but your chronic health issues simply will not go away.
- •You’ve done everything right, you’ve followed the plan with your career, friends, partnership and financial choices, yet that deep hole still exists. You're sure you're failing somehow.
Shame itself isn’t the problem. Our relationship with it is.
Most of us don’t want to acknowledge our shame. We don't want to talk about it or feel it. We try to avoid it. Deny it. Keep it a secret. Or we even bypass it through yoga, affirmations, carefully-laid plans or a constant re-arranging of our lives, as we try to feel good.
The problem is when you constantly push the shame down, it slowly creeps into other areas of your life. The feeling of “being wrong”, “not being good enough” or “not lovable enough” spreads . You start to doubt yourself in areas you were once confident. You start to question who you are. Your values. Your decisions. Your self worth. It can become an endless spiral that keeps you spinning for days, months or even years on end.
Here’s the tricky part:
Your relationship to shame is often what stops you from having what you want. When you are ashamed of your shame, and you contract your body around it, keeping it hidden and frozen inside of you, you end up diminishing yourself and repelling away what you really want.
The only way we can shift shame is by feeling it and letting it move through our bodies.
(Take a moment to breathe and read that sentence again).
We can’t control the intensity of it, we can’t control how it wants to move through us, we can’t control when it comes, but we can learn to just be with it (even if it’s just for a few seconds). To breathe, stop hiding or pushing it down and let it be a part of us. If we can allow this to happen, it will move and our relationship with it will change.
The Shifting Shame, Releasing Fear Workshop is a safe space for you to explore and shift your shame through movement, breath, discussion and body-centered exercises.
This workshop is intentionally kept small - maximum 15 people- to allow you to safely and intimately navigate your relationship to shame.
In the workshop, you’ll learn to recognize how you react to shame in your body – what situations in life trigger it, where you tense your muscles, how you breathe, what the feelings and sensations are that you’re trying to control, where your mind goes, how you behave in those moments where shame is triggered.
And you’ll learn to stop it, as you wish, and let all the energy that you previously invested in being afraid of and hiding your shame, be set free to simply move through you.
Imagine how your life would change if you were no longer held back by shame, fear and old stories from your past.
You’ll learn Embodied Movement and breathing techniques to help you deal with:
- Body image and cultural / social expectations
- Rejection, failure, making mistakes
- The chronic feeling that something is wrong with you
- Anxiety, overwhelm and guilt
- Jealousy and comparison amongst women
- Silently held opinions you hold of yourself
- Criticism and judgment from others
- Finding internal space for forgiveness and self-acceptance
My biggest wish for you is this…
...that as you shift your relationship to shame, you’ll thrive a bit more every single day, and your long-held dreams will become your reality.
What is the workshop size?
The maximum participants in this workshop is 15. The nature of the subject is such that a smaller, more intimate group allows participants to freely express themselves and feel safe in the process.
What is the workshop schedule?
Saturday, 8th April
9:30 - 6:00 pm (Lunch break 1:00 - 2:30 pm)
Sunday, 9th April
9:30 - 1:00 pm
Several short breaks are scheduled throughout both days.
What are my transport/parking options getting to the event?
To be confirmed.
What can/can't I bring to the event?
Towel and water bottle. Snacks will be provided.
Where can I contact the organizer with any questions?
Is my registration/ticket transferrable?
Yes, as long as you contact me 48 hours prior to the workshop.
What is the cancellation policy?
1 month prior - Full refund
2 weeks prior - 50% refund
48 hours prior - able to transfer your spot to a friend