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Miss Ali / Risha / Skittles88 with Facilitator: Graydancer

Friday, November 1, 2013 at 7:00 PM - Sunday, November 3, 2013 at 1:00 PM (PDT)


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Registration Type Sales End Price Fee Quantity
General Admission - All Weekend
Includes admittance to the Meet & Greet, GrUE Open Space, AfterGrUE, and GrUEcakes
Ended $60.00 $4.29

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SF GrUE 2013 SCHEDULE:                             

(all locations will be provided to registered attendees)

Friday night, Nov 1, 2013, 7-10pm: Meet & Greet Social, held at a restaurant location in San Francisco. (Food and drinks may be available for purchase, but are NOT included in the ticket price.)

Saturday, Nov 2, 2013, 9am-5pm: GrUE held at its location on Market and Gough in San Francisco. Ticket price includes lunch, non-alcoholic drinks and munchies during the day.

Saturday night, Nov 2, 2013, 8pm-midnight: AfterGrUE Party at the same location on Market and Gough. Ticket price includes admission and light snacks. This will be an alcohol-free event.

Sunday morning, Nov 3 2013, 10am-1pm: Graydancer's World Famous Pancake Breakfast held at the same location on Market and Gough. Ticket price includes pancakes and orange juice, please bring any other yummy goodies you'd like to add. (fruit, bacon, cinnamon buns, etc are all welcome).

Locations and times may change with notice, and all registered attendees will receive an email with exact locations, times, directions, parking instructions and other important information no later than October 25, 2013.



Everyone 18 and older is welcome.

**Please note - All attendees must be registered before the cut-off date as NO tickets will be sold at the door.**

Please join the SF GrUE Fetlife Group: to meet other folks attending the GrUE, participate in discussions and get the latest news.

Photo Policy:  Photo’s at the SF GrUE are permitted only in one designated area during the after GrUE only.  When taking photos in the designated area you must gain permission from all people in the area before taking any photo’s.  Photo’s in all other areas of the SF GrUE are not permitted.

As we get closer to the event we will send out the addresses, transportation and parking suggestions, appropriate attire, etc. In the mean time, you are welcome to email with questions.

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Friday night we have a meet greet, just hanging out, getting to know each other. This is to prevent the necessity the next day of things like ice breakers or introductions all around.

Saturday the GRUE happens, starting at 10am. This may seem early, but there is a window of time we are creating and daylight waits for no one.

As people arrive, its my job to explain to them how the GRUE works (the principles and law above) as well as use the Open Space techniques to help the group come up with an agenda for the day. There is a specific set of steps to do this which I wont go into here, but suffice it to say it works. Here's a quick illustration of everything taught at the GRUEs so far:

As you can see, there's a lot of stuff, ranging from the 101 level to weird shit no one would expect (Group Therapy for Humiliation Scenes is one that was surprising and very good). I also always offer my Fishbowl, which has been an amazing experience every time and which you can hear actually happen in Toronto on a Ropecast.

There is no lunch break. Time is too valuable to waste on breaking for lunch. Instead, food appears at the venue, buffet-style, and people are made aware that it is available when they want it. Usually they grab a sandwich or something and just keep on going with whatever was going on before they got hungry.

My job during the day is to keep things going smoothly  announcing classes as they occur, making sure people have the materials and space they need. Occasionally I present, but usually I'm more a demo top  letting others present and just helping where I can. In a worst case scenario where no one had any ideas for presentations (which has never happened  usually its the opposite) I could certainly present on many different subjects, but usually I'm more of the man behind the curtain.

At the end I gather people for a closing circle and we each tell something we gained/learned/felt during the GRUE. Again, in case you missed it before: THIS IS REALLY CRUCIAL FOR EVERYONE. I have had people skip it, and they always regret it, and I feel bad for putting them through an intense day and having them then basically suffer drop due to lack of group aftercare.

Then there is usually a dinner break  sometimes communal, sometimes everyone splitting  and we gather again about 8pm for a play party.

The next day we have a brunch cool down where I make pancakes for everyone, and people relax, sometimes continue discussions/learning from the day before, but generally have an extended leave taking.


When & Where

Market Street
San Francisco, CA 94103

Friday, November 1, 2013 at 7:00 PM - Sunday, November 3, 2013 at 1:00 PM (PDT)

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Miss Ali / Risha / Skittles88 with Facilitator: Graydancer

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