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Polytopia 2019: Sex-Positive Portland's Annual Polyamory Symposium & Party

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Crowne Plaza Portland Downtown Convention Center

1441 NE 2nd Avenue

Portland, OR 97232

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Curious about polyamory? Opening up your relationship? Already loving more and ready for something more?

This three day weekend exploration of polyamory includes an opening night gala, workshops, panel discussions, a poly house party and a guided poly massage-a-trois. Come learn, play, and explore your edges. Learn from our experienced and inspiring presenters sharing knowledge, tips, and wisdom while we celebrate a passion for loving more. Bring your friends and extended poly family, meet new friends and lovers, find your people!

Polytopia 2019 offers workshops for those who are relatively new to navigating the joys and pitfalls of loving more and workshops for those who are already well-experienced with polyamory who are looking for ways to better live the life they love. Workshops will be in a variety of formats ranging from lecture and discussion to experiential and embodied activities in dyads, triads and more. We will also offer lunchtime discussion panels and affinity groups to choose from each day to deepen our knowledge and connections with each other.

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This year, Polytopia is being held at the Crowne Plaza Downtown Convention Center near the city center. Shopping, sightseeing, restaurants & bars are all in walking distance and public transit is right nearby. The hotel provides free shuttle service for all registered guests to and from the airport and to locations within a three mile radius which includes being able to getting to and from Polytopia: The Party! on Saturday night at Sex Positive Portland's Center on N. Mississippi free of charge. To book a room at the Crowne Plaza at our discounted rate of $179 per night during Polytopia, call the hotel at (503) 233-2401 with the group code SPP or use this quick booking link: Polytopia 2019


All daytime events are for adults 18 and over. Evening events are 21 and older. Membership in Sex-Positive Portland is not required to attend events and workshops of Polytopia. There are some areas of Polytopia: The Party! on Saturday night that are only accessible as a member of Sex Positive Portland or a guest of a member. Check out Sex Positive Portland on Meetup.com to find out more about membership.

What are you waiting for? Come enjoy a great weekend filled with everything Polytopia, Sex-Positive Portland and the Crowne Plaza have to offer!


Early bird passes - now through January 31st – register for the whole weekend for just $185 (a super bargain). Weekend passes include: the Opening Gala on Friday Night, Polytopia: The Party! on Saturday night , three workshops per day, buffet lunch (with vegetarian and gluten free options) and inspiring lunch discussion groups and panels on both Saturday and Sunday. These weekend passes will be $210 starting February 1st.

Poly Patron - Show your gratitude for the beautiful life you lead and support Polytopia at a higher level this year. Every Poly Patron who contributes $250 or more towards a sex positive world in sex negative times, receives everything included in a weekend pass plus a special invitation to the presenters dinner at 6pm Friday night - one hour before the doors open for the opening Gala - and a drink on us - to toast your good health. Every dollar you contribute above $250 will be used to supplement our reduced rate workshop tickets for our amazing event volunteers. Thank you for making Polytopia more accessible to all!

As an Earlybird weekend pass holder or Patron ticket holder, you have first priority registering for the workshops of your choice when our workshop schedule is set in January. Many of our most popular workshops fill up fast! This is a great way to assure you get to experience the workshops you are most interested in attending.

Advance purchase party tickets: Plan ahead to have this year's parties at last year's prices - Not coming for the whole weekend but wanting to be a part of it all? Opening Night Gala Tickets and Saturday's Polytopia: The Party! tickets will be $20 each this year starting February 1st and $25 at the door. If you buy your tickets by January 31st, you can go to either the Polytopia opening night Gala at the Crown Plaza or Polytopia: The Party! showcasing our Center for Sex Positivity on Mississippi Avenue for last year's bargain price of $15 each.


Saturday and Sunday Day Passes: Not coming for the whole weekend but wanting to make the most of Polytopia? Day passes go on sale on February 1st for just $90 each. Day passes include your choice of three different workshops, a lunch buffet (with vegetarian and gluten free options) and several options for lunch affinity groups and discussion panels.


Individual workshops: Many of our workshops sold out last year before individual workshop tickets went on sale. This year we have expanded our workshop spaces, offering three workshops each session for the first time instead of two with larger capacity rooms to better accommodate our most popular Polytopia presenters. Individual workshop ticket prices and availability will be announced March 1st.


Individual workshops still available and meal panel discussion passes: Our discussion panels and special topic affinity groups happen during the lunch hour at Polytopia. If you'd rather eat elsewhere and still join in our lunchtime offerings, affordable passes, no food included, will be made available the day of to join us in the conversations as space is available.

Polytopia is all about people sharing, caring and coming together to celebrate loving more . . .

Our presenters bring a wide variety of experiences with polyamory and non-monogamous relationships. Check out our presenters list as it grows and grows as we get closer and closer to Polytopia.

Proudly announcing our new presenters for 2019:

ANGIE GUNN is an AASECT-certified sex therapist and licensed clinical social worker in private practice in Portland, OR, and online through Talkspace. Angie serves LGBTQIPA+, kinky, non-monogamous, sexual trauma survivors, and others as an ally, advocate, and resource for connection, change and healing. She also serves as the Sex Therapy Expert for the Talkspace Team of more than 2000 therapists and as the chairperson for SPEEC, an intersectional sexuality non-profit. Past Conference and Community Presentations include- Poly Group Madison, WI (2017), Catalyst (2017), Sin in the City (Vegas, 2018), and Poly Dallas Millenium (2018). Angie will be presenting Non-Monogamy 2.0 and a workshop on Poly Transitions and Break Ups.


BECKY FROMM became a full time professional cuddler in July 2017, dedicated to sharing and unmasking the benefits of non-sexual intimacy. Along with her cuddling and companionship company, Positivitouch, she runs a YouTube channel called The Intimacy Imperative to talk about the gifts and necessity of human connection. Interested in loving more, but not in getting into relations or sleeping with more people, Becky found the middle ground for herself and others that cuddling can provide. Join her for a workshop at Polytopia to learn more about where cuddling with more than one can fit into your life and your relationships.


CASSIE BRIGHTER is a trans activist and frequent speaker on consent, gender and intersectionality. She has facilitated dozens of workshops and seminars, focusing on consent, boundaries and interpersonal dynamics. A featured writer on Medium.com, she has been selected as top writer on Feminism and LGBTQ issues. Cassie has been practicing consensual non-monogamy for nine years and serves as a Board member for SexPositive World. Stay tuned to find out what of her many well received workshops Cassie will be bringing to Polytopia this year.


TANYA JARVIK is a writer, performer, educator, and consultant who has been navigating the joys and complexities of ethical nonmonogamy for over twenty years. She also has an extensive background in the field of communications, and has studied narrative therapy, conflict transformation, and NVC. Her passion is helping others cultivate relationships that strengthen collective resilience by honoring personal autonomy. Tanya has wisely figured out that one workshop on jealousy is not enough. She'll be presenting two jealousy workshops at Polytopia this year: one for those of us who get jealous easily and one for those of us who rarely get jealous ourselves but want to be a good ally for our jealousy-prone partners.


Back by popular demand:

Many of our returning presenters and performers are providing favorite presentations that Polytopia participants look forward to every year along with great new workshops to learn from and enjoy.

ADRIAN MARTIN is back at Polytopia for a third year with favorite and new original sex positive music and lyrics for the Friday night Opening Gala and Polytopia: The Party! on Saturday night. As a sex-positive songwriter, singer, guitarist and activist, Adrian knows how to titilate while educating about consent, sex positivity and the joys of polyamory. Adrian has performed on stages from Prague to Juneau performing sex positive songs for events by Dance Naked Productions, Whoopee!, Sex Positive Portland and Sex Positive World. Sing along with Adrian, we give you Verbal Consent!


CLIFF REES, Cliff has offered many workshops in Portland on intimacy, sexuality, communication, boundaries and presence, and has traveled to Europe and Hawaii 30+ times over the past 20 years to assist with Alan Lowen's week-long workshops on Tantra, intimacy, sexuality, and death (www.artofbeing.com) as a graduate of Alan's Body, Heart & Soul two-year training. His guided Massage-a-trois afternoon workshop experience at this year's Polytopia will fill quickly. Watch for the events schedule in late January so you don't miss out.

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ELEANOR O'BRIEN is the founder and artistic director for Dance Naked Productions, a sex positive theater and the sex positive theater festival Come Inside (now in it’s third year). In the past 13 years, she has created four original ensemble productions: Theatrical Aphrodisiac, Pleasure, Permission, Possibility…, Lubricate Your Libido and The Dawn of Sex. She teaches workshops in finding the connection between our sexuality and our creativity, and is a narrative coach who works with individuals uncovering their sex stories. She has written and toured extensively with the solo shows GGG:Dominatrix for Dummies and Lust & Marriage. She holds an undergraduate degree in theater from Pomona College and an MFA from the University of San Diego/Old Globe Theater. Come enjoy theater you can learn from and be a part of poly theater with Eleanor.

Eleanor O'Brien

GABRIELLA CORDOVA, Founder and Director of SexPositive World, a membership/volunteer organization with over 5000 members in 16 cities and 5 countries. She is the creator and producer of festivals and major events including Polytopia, Ecosex Symposium PDX, ErosFestNW, and the Sexual Health Speaker Series which has included (just to name a few) Christopher Ryan (Sex at Dawn), Janet Hardy (Ethical Slut), Dr. Annie Sprinke (enough said), Marty Klein (Sexual Intelligence), and Paul Jeonides (the Guide to Getting it On). She is an author, sex educator, community organizer, speaker and revolutionary. She has presented at the World Polyamory Conference and has been interviewed on countless podcasts on the topic of Sex Positive Culture.

Gabriella Cordova

GWENN CODY LCSW, Locally known and widely respected therapist specializing in kink, poly, and other forms of alternative sexuality. Gwenn is a teacher and workshop leader in the areas of women's empowerment, sacred sexuality, and open relationship. http://gwenncody.com. Her Three's Company workshop at Polytopia is an exploration of what it takes to expand intimacy beyond the dyad, especially in the bedroom. She helps everyone identify the patterns that triads can fall into, and begin to get some practice in creating more inclusive relating patterns including how to open and use the exponential increase in erotic energy that is available in triads.

Gwenn Cody

JIMENA ALVARADO teaches about queer issues with a special focus on relationships and everyday interactions. Working from an intersectional perspective, she is interested in how different identities and power dynamics affect people's lives. She has a background in Community Psychology and Gender and Women's Studies, and teaches social justice full time at Portland Community College.


JOHN SICKLER is a certified gestalt therapist in private practice in Portland, Oregon. He specializes in working with adults in open relationships and is also a Sex Positive Portland board member and co-director of Sex Positive World. John and Gabriella Cordova frequently present together as sex and relationship educators and are in partnership facilitating the rapidly growing Elysium Lodge Retreat and Event Center. Polypopia's polyfriendly therapist's panel is a helpful way to learn more about what works and what doesn't in navigating loving more. Come meet John and other therapists who can help you on your way to healthy relating.

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RAY COHEN is a professional counselor, focusing on sexual healing, relationships and polyamory. He is also a fitness coach, working directly with taking care of the body and with the obstacles that get in the way. Ray travels and teaches classes with Amara Karuna, including Sacred Pelvic Healing Massage, Heartbeat Therapy and Rivers of Love. His Wheel of Consent workshop at Polytopia last year, based on the work of Betty Martin, reminds us that there is always more to learn to be able to distinguish between receiving and giving, what they are and what they are not. Stay tuned to hear what Ray is bringing us this year.

Ray Cohen

SAFFIRE BOUCHELION, Saffire lives in Portand and travels the world to bring a deeper sense of embodiment, self empowerment and self expression through the use of sound and movement. He raises awareness and facilitates dialogue around race and intersectionality in the dance and sex positive communities. His co-leadership of the town hall style workshop he has named "Speaking the Unspeakable" presented first at Dance Camp Northwest in 2017 led to joining the board and planning committee for DCNW's 2018 eight day festival. One of Portland's most popular ecstatic dance DJ's, Saffire will be entertaining us in some parts of Polytopia and educating us in others, leading us all to a more embodied awareness of our desires, fears and deeper selves.

Saffire Bouchelion

STELLA HARRIS is such a nerd about communication that she wrote a book about it - Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships coming out this September from Cleis Press. As a Certified Intimacy Educator and Sex Coach, she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. A regular at SheBop and KinkFest locally, Stella also teaches at venues and conferences across the country (and Canada!) recently appearing at Dark Odyssey: Surrender in San Francisco and Kinky Kollege in Chicago. In addition to her upcoming book, Stella has been busy writing her new sex column for the Willamette Week, Humptown! Learn more at www.stellaharris.net.

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AND MORE . . . Even more experienced polyamorous presenters will be joining us for lunchtime discussion panels on Saturday and Sunday. Order of presenters in the weekend schedule below subject to change.


Friday Evening: Opening Gala 7 - 11pm

(6pm-7pm presenter and patron dinner)

Gala included in the full weekend pass. Gala and dinner with the presenters included in the special Patron pass.

Gala-only tickets on sale now for $15, will be $20 on Feb 1st and $25 at the door.

  • A social hour with optional connection games and a no-host bar

  • Live music

  • Poly theater with Eleanor O'Brien and Dance Naked Productions

  • Motivational address by our inspiring presenters

  • Presenters sharing about their workshops and gatherings for the weekend.

  • Dance the night away

Saturday: A Day of Workshops 10am - 5pm

Included in full weekend pass.

On sale starting Feb 1st: $85 per day (workshops, discussion panels/groups and buffet lunch).

On sale March 1st: Individual workshop tickets. Prices to be announced.

10:00 to 11:30 Morning Workshops

11:30 to 12:30: Buffet lunch for pass holders

discussion panels and round table affinity group discussions

1:00 to 2:30: Midday Workshops

3:00 to 5:00: Afternoon Workshops

5:00 – 6:00: Cocktail Hour

Saturday Night: Polytopia: The Party! 9pm - 1am

Sex Positive Portland's Center, 4124 N. Mississippi

Included in the Polytopia weekend passes.

Tickets on sale now: $15. $20 on Feb 1st. $25 at the door.

Walk the talk by coming out to play!

Dance, explore, and party with your new best friends and poly partners a quick drive away from the Crowne Plaza into one of the most festive streets in Portland, Mississippi Avenue at Sex-Positive Portland's main gathering center.

  • Sober, consensual fun! (You can BYOB and have our bartender hold your drinks as long as you keep yourself on the responsive, aware side of consensual connection)

  • Fun for all levels of exploration

  • A variety of intimate play rooms that follow Sex-Positive Portland's leveling system accessible by Sex-Positive Portland members and anyone entering a play room escorted by a member

  • DJ and dancing

  • Live music and mixer games

  • Polyamorous Story Telling in our Intimate Space

Sunday: A Day of Workshops 10am - 5pm

Included in full weekend pass.

On sale starting Feb 1st: $85 per day (workshops, discussion panels/groups and buffet lunch).

On sale March 1st: Individual workshop tickets. Prices to be announced.

10:00 to 11:30: Morning Workshops

11:30 to 12:30: Buffet lunch for pass holders

discussion panels and round table affinity group discussions

1:00 to 2:30: Midday Workshops

3:00 to 5:00: Afternoon Workshops

5:00 – 6:00: Closing Gathering

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1441 NE 2nd Avenue

Portland, OR 97232

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