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@NorthernNefertiti - Multiracial Queens dismantling & healing from post-col...

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A multicultural community for the modern multi-ethnic/multi-racial millennial Queen.


“What are you?”
“No....What are you really????”
“What’s your mix??
“OMG you’re so exotic!
“She got that “good hair”” (cue: side-eye, cut-eye, teeth-kiss)
“You think you’re better than us, don’t you!?”
“You’re Not even...” (insert one of the ethnicities that make up how you self-identify here)(said in a super complimentary and friendly tone)
“OMG you’re so white!”(said in either a complimentary tone or an accusatory tone, depending on which ethnic group comprising your multi-ethnic identity is taking it upon themselves to declare your identity for you)
“You don’t even sound black : )
“Like, I don’t even see you as black : )
“I’m not usually into (insert ethnic group romantic interest is referring to you as), but I’m feeling you girl ; ) .......
“Stop acting so light-skinned!” :D
“It must have been hard for you growing up....being mixed & all (says your date, exactly half a shade “darker/different” than you)
“Here, you respond...” : / (hands me his phone to retort to a racially-motivated discriminatory text, due to the word having quickly spread that we are hanging out, from one of his broskies, because his discomfort/embarrassment is obviously my fault and my responsibility)

If the above range of commentary describes, even remotely, the #storyofyourlife.....

Welcome home, Queen that you are, we see and understand you correctly in this space; you’ve arrived and finally found people Who. Get. Your. Story. You may now exhale....


Background from organizer:

The name came to me five years ago when I was at my wit's end from feeling zero connectivity to my own home-country and all the "communities" that exist within it, usually mainstream deafeningly-white ones, or mono-racial/cultural groups catering to "underserved communities". I thought to myself, nowhere at any level of society is someone like myself being directly served, reflected, addressed, or considered, which is ridiculous when you hear the powers that be celebrate multi-culturalism and tout statistics about how the future of Canada will by and large become a transient shade of brownish-beige in the next few generations of our country.

I decided to look to the past to inspire the path I will forge in this world for the future, by reflecting on Queen Nefertiti of Egypt. She was a North African Queen who was unprecedently powerful, beautiful, and influential, said to have effortlessly smited enemies who, once captive, decorated her throne. She set the historical standard of #girlpower & beauty, as to this day, her famoust bust sculpture is one of the most copied works of ancient Egypt, the land where civilization began.

Those of us, of which there are many, who already visibly reflect the future of this nation and the entire continent for that matter, are uniquely positioned to lead the hundreds-of-thousands of mixed-race children & youth coming behind us, as well as the outdated mono-racial decision-makers and communities somehow still calling most of the shots on matters that impact us but do not account for us, whom we ourselves have honestly left way behind.

There is doubly as much disdain and isolation for North Americans who do not fit into any one box, as they have no singular source of community to turn to for support, inclusion, and an authentic sense of belonging. The list is irritatingly long when it comes to the consequences of being someone who feels they literally have no one to turn to: psycological & physiological health issues, unecessarily limiting socio-economic consequences, and socially, an overall gnawing sense of never feeling at home in their own native land. The unique experience of multi-racial North Americans is nothing really all that new, and the fact that after multiple decades, no governing body federally, provincially, regionally, or municipally has explicitly addressed our needs distinctly, is simply not okay.


So with our eyes on healing the wounds of the past, addressing the very real challenges of the present, and smoothing out the path for the future of children like my three beautiful multi-racial nieces, we @NorthernNefertiti will commune on the fourth Saturday of every month to, frankly, create the sense of community that most of us have never had, by unpacking years and multi-generational lifetimes of baggage that, if left unaddressed, will continue to weigh ridiculously heavy on top of our already blessedly-burdened shoulders as women, as female citizens in a competitive and rapidly evolving economic landscape, as human beings too busy grappling with the challenges of environmental uncertainties, and as wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, aunts, nieces, grand-daughters, grand-mothers, and god-mothers who, without question, already have much bigger fish to fry than having to continue dealing with post-colonial divisive constructs that we simply have not yet collectively grabbed the bull by the horn to permantly rid ourselves of.

We exist to ensure that any societal conversation attempting to "celebrate and empower women" in this country embraces the revolutionary act of not excluding neither women "of colour" and multi-racial women who cannot tick just one, or even two, clean boxes.

We exist to gently, kindly, and supportively challenge any outdated community organization allegedly designed to serve and embolden women towards greatness in the "mainstream" predominantly-Caucasian-Canadian led sphere; or those pretending to be "multicultural" but only have the easy-to-find over-represented minorities or just a small few "token ethnics" therein; and those in the "ethnic" mono-racially self-described realm serving only those who fall comfortably into an archaic box of what supposedly constitutes race, to take the monumental step of seeking out, acknowledging, embracing, and addressing the realities of multi-racial women who represent the future of Canada, this continent, and the world.



Manifesto:

Northern Nefertiti is a place where the modern multiracial millennial woman can come for healing, empowerment, and to grow fully into the Queen that she already is, inside & out.

Inclusive also of all female allies who do not necessarily self-identify as "multi-racial/bi-racial, etc.", this is a space where, together, we dismantle colourism & shadeism, obviously racism, and where we excavate the painful true roots of self-hatred & divisiveness that are inherent post-colonial illnesses in ours’ and several other societies, across the world.

@NorthernNefertitis will gather every month, in the North end of Toronto, here in the Great White North, and continually on Social & online @ northernnefertiti.com. The focus this year is going to centre predominantly on healing, and as such, we will stir up the conversation by watching the stories of other mixed-race women in every possible documentary, episode, or film that many of us have been too busy dealing with life as a mixed-chick to even know existed.

Then we will have time for discussion, sharing, listening, and through it all, healing, until we meet again the following month to dive deeper or look at a different angle of the multi-faceted equation of our lives as mutli-racial women. We are all-the-way-here to gather together every hyphenate imaginable, for example: Métis women (the OG of Canadian mixed-ladies, of European and Indigenous descent; Indo-Carribbean women (of sometimes a variation of Afro-Carribbean, European, and Indian descent); Mixed-race women of Black (origins in the indigenous African continent) descent ("Blasian", Afro-Latinas, Euro-Carribbean-Canadians, Indigenous-Black-Americans, Indigenous-Black-Canadians, Creyole North American women of Black, French, Spanish, and/or Indigenous descent, etc.), East-Asian-European women (e.g. White + Chinese, Japanese, Korean, or Vietnamese, etc.), East-Asians of former Portughese colonial descent (e.g. Filipina), Indo-European Canadians (from Portughese/French/British-Indian mixed communities); West Asian-mixed North Americans (Persian, Phoenician, Armenian, Syrian, Lebanese + anything else you can imagine); and European-Canadians oft thought to not have faced the historic wrath of shadeism/racism, but alas no one has escaped it (Italian, Iberian (Spanish/Portughese), Celtic (Irish), Eastern-European, Roma & Sinti, Russian, etc.), North-East Asian (Kazakhstan, Uzbekhistan, Mongolia, etc.), Pacific Islander-Canadian women, Indigenous-Australian Canadian women, South-African, North-African, Cape-Verdean, Seychellen, etc. I have surely left out a few of thousands of many other multi-hyphenate mixed-race sub-cultures that are out there. The good news is that our beautiful mixtures and complexities are what we have in common to share, learn about, find healing around, and celebrate together.

We exist, quite simply, to serve a community that here in Canada has never been directly served, to let those women rarely seen, feel seen, & understood, and to finally heal wounds that have never fully been healed, so that every woman can go out to shape and contribute to North American society feeling renewed as the most powerful and impactful version of herself.

Slay In Peace, Queens!


- Northern Nefertiti




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