I am honored to be given the opportunity to hold a cuddle party at my alma mater. These events are something that I wish I had in college - maybe I would have been less stressed and would have known how to identify and ask for what I want. I hear that finals week is coming up, and if you're stressed, don't worry, you're not alone. Take some time out of studying for some self-care and connection with your peers. Cuddling is relaxing and helps us become present with ourselves. If you've thought at any point in the last couples of weeks "man, I need a hug," this is the time to get it! Thank you for your support and consideration in attending my first cuddle party at Millikin.
Open to Millikin University students or alumni only! If you are a student who has a non-student friend that would like to come, please let me know!
Cuddle Party is the next generation of social event - connect with great people in a safe and cuddly environment!
Human beings need loving, consensual touch. It reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, and promotes a sense of belonging and emotional well-being. Consensual touch positively affects the way that we relate to other people and ourselves. Without touch, we suffer from something called skin hunger -- making us feel lonely, isolated, stressed and unhappy with our lives.
The good news is that loving touch is abundant! Cuddle Party brings together people from different walks of life to explore giving and receiving loving touch together. Not only that, but it promotes a culture that is built around consent! You do not have to do anything that you don't want to at a Cuddle Party -- you're completely at choice. These reasons are why Cuddle Party has truly impacted my life.
At Cuddle Party you can:
- Learn useful skills about consent - how to ask for what you want and how to receive the answer
- Satisfy touch needs that aren't being met in your daily life
- Experience a community of consent-savvy and interesting individuals
- Experience what it's like to get an oxytocin high (oxytocin is the love and bonding hormone that our bodies naturally produce)
- Challenge social norms about touch
- Do nothing and observe if you want! Just being there is participation.
- Express yourself
- Practice making your own authentic choices and build confidence around those choices
Cuddle Party Itinerary
3:00 PM - Doors open
3:00 to 3:30 PM - Cuddlers arrive, check in, change into snuggly clothes, grab a snack, socialize
3:30 - 4:30 PM - Welcome Circle. This is the most important part of the event and all attendees must be present for the whole Welcome Circle. Doors will close at 3:30, and if you are not here by that time, then you will not be able to participate.
4:30 - 7:00 PM - "Open Swim" time where you can choose to cuddle, socialize or participate in any non-sexual activities like playing games or solo activities like journaling.
7:00 - 7:30 PM - Closing circle, clean-up and goodbyes.
If you have questions, please feel free to call 847-477-2883 or email Katchwalisz@gmail.com
Cuddle Party Etiquette
ARRIVE ON TIME: It is important that all participants are here and ready to go once the Welcome Circle has begun. The Welcome Circle serves the purpose of creating comfortability between participants and making sure that everyone is informed about the rules of cuddling. The doors will close once the Welcome Circle begins.
WHAT TO WEAR: Pajamas, sweatpants, yoga pants, onesies, anything that you feel comfortable in. Nothing that you consider sexy or risque - think elementary school slumber party.
WHAT TO BRING: Non-alcoholic beverages and/or snacks to share. You can bring any cuddle accessories that you would like -- stuffed animals, blankets, pillows, whatever you would like! You can even bring anything that you might want to do as a solo or group activity.. things like books and board games. The only thing that you are required to bring is you and your smiles!
The Rules of Cuddling
Pajamas stay on for the whole event.
You do not have to touch anyone at a Cuddle Party, ever.
You must ask permission and receive a verbal YES before you touch anyone. (Be as specific as you can in your requests.)
If you're yes, say YES. If you're a no, say NO.
If you're a maybe, say NO.
You are encouraged to change your mind.
Respect your relationship agreements and communicate with your partner.
Get your facilitator or assistant if you have a question or concern or if you need assistance with anything during the event.
Tears and laughter are both welcome.
Respect people's privacy when sharing about Cuddle Party.
Keep the cuddle space tidy. No one likes to cuddle in a puddle!