Man 2 Man: Childbirth Prep for Dads
Saturday, July 20, 2013 at 6:30 PM (EDT)
Esali Birth provides a unique workshop just for dads. In our “Man 2 Man” classes, guys meet in an environment, separate from the moms, to talk about all the concerns about pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. Guys will meet with an experienced dad, in the private party room, to cover all the information for birth, catered to you as a birth partner and girls will meet in the dining area - we may have various doulas, educators, midwives...etc., joining us for questions and laid-back discussion. Moms, meet me in the dining room for a ladies night out.
You're welcome to eat dinner and buy drinks as desired - you buy.
Prenatal Depression, Hormones, & Well-Being
Care Providers & Birth Locations – Your Thoughts Count
Sex & Mom’s Body Changes
Labor & Birth
Stages & Signposts – Is it time for the baby yet?
Supporting Mom & Hiring a Doula
What if we don’t make it to the birth location, or the midwife doesn’t arrive?
Protecting the mother during birth
When will things get back to normal?
Caring for mom postpartum
How can I help if my wife breastfeeds?
All of this, and so much more. Casual environment so you can feel uninhibited to talk about your questions from hormones, sex, and the ridiculous amount of bathroom breaks, to safety in birth, what it is like seeing mom in labor, and becoming a dad.
These classes are not intended to be an alternative to a full perinatal series, but a supplement for dads to be fully prepared. Because of this, Esali Birth offers $25 off the full 10-week series for couples in which the dad attends one of these classes. We’ve been there and know how difficult it can be for many dads to feel completely comfortable in a regular perinatal series. Although we cover these topics in a regular class, this “Man 2 Man” format allows to the point discussion with uncensored questions and comments. These workshops are currently offered for FREE, but we do ask for registration. Classes can fill up quick, and we have limited space. Contact info at esalibirth dot com for registration details. Sure moms, feel free to contact to discuss!
Man to Man FAQ
How can a male teach a childbirth class?
If a female can learn best about birth from a female who has experienced it before, then clearly a male can learn best about being a supportive dad from a male who has experienced it before. However, becuase birth is so unique to the woman, the information within these courses is provided by a lot of female persuasion, and our educators are ready with references as needed. Occassionally, we bring in females such as doulas, educators, midwives…etc. to provide dads with the first-person perspective, but we do like to keep the workshops with a guy’s learning environment in mind.
My childbirth class covers all of this, why is it necessary?
You’re right, it probably does… in fact… the content within this course is taken directly from the full EB series… However, context is like night and day for some people. Sitting in a couples group isn’t all that appealing for some men and when you’re talking about a lot of emotions and female anatomy doing things you haven’t thought about them doing before, it might be a little overwhelming. These workshops provide the information important just to the birth partner without all the information that mom’s need to hear. Let’s face it, men and women learn differently – our genetics and hormones make sure of that. Literally, I could talk about the same exact thing, use the same exact words, but gender can make all the difference. I’ve experienced this with my husband taking a different childbirth “method,” and I’ve experienced this with multiple dads who take my series – they just don’t want to be there regardless of how “fun” and birth-partner oriented they are designed. They are there as a loving husband who wants to support mom, but they are simply uninterested. And, although males weren’t necessarily made for the birth world, we realize that in this modern age, dads are (fortunately) more involved than ever, and they need to be prepared.
They might think a million things to ask, but they are afraid of offending the female instructor, or the other couples in the group. They don’t really care to speak up with other guys, but they feel judged with the other (hormonal) women. (Imagine being a dad in a childbirth class when the instructor is pregnant too, whew! Our educator went through just that). We want you to feel thoroughly supported by other dads who have already walked this path to parenthood, in a positive way.
I can get all my worries out in a “real” guy’s night out.
Maybe… maybe you can joke about what your wife is doing at home, or about the ridiculous thing she cried about last night, but you’re not getting educated at the same time. We’ll provide you with information that will help you truely support mom, and understand what is really making all these changes.
I want Dad to attend this, but…
I know, I know… attending another childbirth class, right? Haven’t you done enough? How much more of this do you have to listen to? These classes are painless, and fun, I assure you. Our educators have been there, too, and that’s what these classes are all about. You’ll have a great time talking with the guys about all the things you’re going through, but get a lot of valuable information at the same time. Taking these few short hours out of your schedule can make a lifetime of difference. Every minute is worth it for you, mom, and baby.
Dad wants to attend, but this makes me feel left out.
Don’t worry moms, we know how important a perinatal series is to both you and dad. We do not recommend these classes are in place of a series, but as a supplement, although if you aren’t taking a series, this is a must! We want dad to be fully prepared to support you throughout pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. You may feel like Dad will be talking about you and you don’t want to feel made fun of, especially at this time. This is a perefect opportunity for Dad to get some frustrations out in a supportive and educational setting. He may need to release some stress, but we’re also going to provide him with a lot of ways to support you through the various perinatal stages including sensitive topics like body image and depression. This is a perfect time for you to have a girls’ night and give dad the reassurance that you trust in his support abilities. Guys don’t often admit it, but they need to know that you trust them to do their “job.” He will likely focus more in this short class and be better prepared for a full series… but most importantly birth and fatherhood. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact us!
Would you like to teach an EB Man 2 Man course, and similar topics, in your area? Register to become an Esali Birth Support Educator today!
M. Danielle Bergum, EBPE
Perinatal Education & Support
just labor.just birth.just breathe
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