Free

Kim John Payne Lecture: Exclusion - So Subtle, So Hurtful

Event Information

Share this event

Date and Time

Location

Location

Grace Community Church

7427 Wellington County Road 30

Guelph, ON N1H 6J2

Canada

View Map

Event description

Description

Join us to hear Kim speak about Exclusion: So Subtle, So Hurtful

We will explore the topics of..

1. Why is exclusion so hurtful?
2. Why do kids do it?
3. What can we do about it?

Belonging & Orientation.

  • We find ourselves via social interaction with other. To be excluded is to fall into disorientation a loss of sense of a ourselves and a “sense of place”
  • The toxic effects of exclusion are accumulated over time.
  • Under/low on the radar
  • Normalizing. It is very easy to normalize exclusion until it is so toxic that it becomes dangerous or even tragic.

Why do kids exclude?

  • Seeking control in an out of control world
  • Looking for small groups in a world that booms and buzzes
  • Looking for predictability

Solutions that Orient: Pathways to Inclusion

– How to lessen the sensory overwhelm and increase form and predictability in stressful situation

– Getting control back in the school playground and during transitions

Previewing and Review potential exclusion situations

– The Do-ability Zone

Start with what is doable and build out

Small controlled semi-formal situations that kids enjoy and “get”

– Our attitude counts.

Valuing the quirk of the excluded child often and publicly

– Accountability without blame

How many times have you heard kids say…“But I was just joking around!”

Holding those who exclude accountable without blaming and shaming them

Helping children know when they have crossed the line

About Kim - A consultant and trainer to over 230 U.S. independent and public schools, Kim John Payne, M.ED, has been a school counselor, adult educator, consultant, researcher, educator and a private family counselor for twenty seven years. He regularly gives key-note addresses at international conferences for educators, parents, and therapists and runs workshops and training’s around the world.

Share with friends

Date and Time

Location

Grace Community Church

7427 Wellington County Road 30

Guelph, ON N1H 6J2

Canada

View Map

Save This Event

Event Saved