$350 – $850

IntimacyFest 2019 ~ We're All In This Together

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The Emerald Village

1760 Little Gopher Canyon Road

Vista, CA 92084

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IntimacyFest is a 4-day retreat in San Diego, California that teaches people relationship skills through hands-on workshops and immersion in community.

"What should young people do with their lives? Many things, obviously. But the most daring thing is to create stable communities in which the terrible disease of loneliness can be cured."

~ Kurt Vonnegut, Palm Sunday

Loneliness — it’s the unspoken struggle that’s come to define our postmodern existence.

It’s the silent cause of addiction, escapism, depression, suicide, and contributes to just about every physical and mental health problem humans suffer from.

Technology has made incredible advances in our quality of life, yet it’s also made it possible for us to be more independent, and more separate.

We don’t ask our friends for a ride to the airport, because we can Uber. We don’t bump into friends at the market, because we can get our meals delivered.

We don’t stay in relationships when they get hard, we just open an app and find someone else — we think the problem was compatibility, but we forget that it’s also our capacity to love and connect with people, even when they don’t do what we want.

Modern culture has successfully externalized and commercialized almost every aspect of life, but at what cost?

What is the true cost of not needing other people?

Our intimacy muscle is weak.
That’s why we do IntimacyFest.

It’s a chance for us to remember the importance of things like touch, deep connection, eye contact, vulnerability, self-expression, revealing conversations, and removing our obstacles to love, joy and wonder.

IntimacyFest operates like a pop-up community, and since it’s a small event (40-50 people), no one gets left behind.

We're all in this together.

~ What To Expect ~

• Gain real, applicable tools to deepen the connection in all your relationships, taught by experts in the field of relationships and dating.
• Safely lean into your edges of self-expression, vulnerability and honesty.
• Experience being seen, felt, and known like never before — and witness others as they receive that gift from you.
• Experience three full days of well-facilitated practices, games and workshops.
• Meet new friends who share your values of openness and authenticity.
• Get feedback about your blind spots by receiving caring and honest reflections from other people.
• Get plenty of personal time to recharge and enjoy the beautiful land & surrounding nature.
• Allow yourself to drop your armor, walls and masks so you can experience being fully yourself.
• Eat the best damn food you’ve ever had (seriously), thanks to our most excellent chefs Andrew and Trent.
• Get the chance to express yourself and be seen in your creative greatness at our Talent Show.
• Allow yourself to feel good in your own skin, and learn to trust your body’s wisdom and your authentic desires.
• Become a part of a community of dear friends, chosen family, and allies who support who you want to be.

~ Location ~

The event is being held at The Emerald Village, an intentional community located in Vista, California, approximately 45 minutes north of San Diego.

~ Food ~

All meals cooked and prepared by Chefs Andrew and Trent. There will be six meals, all are included in the price.

In previous years the food has been vegetarian and this year it won't be limited to that. All foods will be welcome and served, and all dietary needs will be accommodated.

~ Sleeping ~

Sleeping Options

We have a few different options for sleeping.

  • Camping is what most people do, and that’s included in the ticket price.
  • For those that want a nicer option (or don’t want to bring their own tent), we have 2 different “glamping” options.

Glamping Option #1

For an extra $200 you can rent 1 of 4 twin size beds in a beautiful belle tent, comes with electricity and it’s super cozy (see pictures above).

Glamping Option #2

If you’d like some more privacy we will have a few private tents, they will be big enough to stand up in and they will look super cute.

We don’t have pictures of the inside, but they will have a full or queen mattress, great for a couple or one person.

To upgrade to a private tent, it’s $450 for the whole tent (you can choose to share it or not).

~ Tickets ~

Regular Price: $450
Before June 1st: $400
Before May 1st: $350

~ FAQ ~

1. Should I be attending with a partner?

Not necessarily. We typically have about half and half couples and singles. While attending IntimacyFest with a partner would be brilliant, it is by no means necessary. There will be many people there who are flying solo, in fact attending alone often gives you the chance to meet and connect with more people.

2. What if I don't know anyone going? Is that okay?

Lots of people come to IntimacyFest not knowing anyone. Because IntimacyFest is a small festival (typically between 40-50 people) everyone gets to know each other very quickly. In many ways, this is a perfect festival to go to if you don't know anyone, because the exercises and games are designed to create group cohesion and bonding.

3. Will there be nudity?

On Friday night we will have a sensual roman bath in the incredibly lavish indoor pool house. The pool will be heated to 100 degrees, and nudity is welcome.

4. Is intimacy about sex?

We use the word "intimacy" to describe a simple feeling of closeness, which can include sexual energy, but can also be very easily limited by it.

In the past we’ve experimented with different levels of emphasis on sexuality, including having a dedicated tent for it, and also a facilitated play party. We no longer host a play party, or have any designated areas for sex — however you are welcome to enjoy whatever you would like in the privacy of your tent or room.

None of the exercises or events will involve any sex acts or intentional sexual energy. Please feel free to email Dave if you have any further questions or would like more clarification.

5. Can I get a ride if I fly into San Diego?

While there's no guarantee, chances are very good and we're happy to help make that happen. In the last four years we've gotten everyone a ride that needed one.

6. Does this festival promote polyamory or open relationships?

No, this is a festival for people in all relationship styles.

7. What time does it start on Thursday? When does it end Sunday?

Guests arrive between 4-6pm, and our first event is a group meal at 6:30pm. On Sunday we do a closing circle right after brunch, and typically we're done around 1pm.

8. Can I come for 1 day?

No, all of our guests arrive Thursday night and stay until Sunday, there are no one or two day passes. We start together, and we finish together.

9. Is IntimacyFest LGBTQ friendly?

Absolutely, we have people of all kinds of sexual orientations and gender expressions.

10. Are kids allowed?

No, we love kids but this is an adult-only event.

11. What is your return policy?

Life happens, we understand. You may get a full refund up to one week before the event.

~ Host & Teacher Info ~


Dave Booda is a writer, musician and social entrepreneur. He is the founder of TEDxCardiffbytheSea, co-founder of IntimacyFest, and he writes weekly at boodaism.com about relationships, creativity and happiness. He is the host of Darken the Page, a podcast about the creative process and he also moonlights as his alter-ego Boodananda, a spiritually satirical Kirtan singer who travels the world performing high-vibrational music for enlightened audiences.

Guest Teacher:

Reid Mihalko is a nationally known sex and relationship role model, and “America’s favorite sex geek”. He has led thousands of workshops, his work has been covered by almost every media outlet. His charisma and easy to understand style of teaching has touched tens of thousands of people. He’s one of the only male sex and relationship experts touring the country today who can speak pragmatically to nearly all areas of sexual self-expression, intimacy, dating and relating.

Reid would also like you to know that he concluded a yearlong restorative justice-based accountability process in 2019 so he could address harms that were brought to his attention during the #MeToo movement. You can find details on that process at TinyURL.com/reidaccountabilty

Any questions? Feel free to contact Dave at davebooda@gmail.com

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