Cuddle Gathering - Ventura County Cuddle Club

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Oak View

The Ranch

Private home. Location emailed upon ticket purchase.

Oak View, CA 93022

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Why is it...

...when you ask people if they're getting enough non-sexual touch, most people say no? Even people who are in relationships? Why is this a need we all have, the comfort and soothing of simple touch, and yet so few people are getting as much touch as they want and need? Touch is powerful, healing, calming, and therapeutic. Now there is even science to back it up!

8 Reasons Why We Need Human Touch More Than Ever

But sometimes touch is not simple. So how does one get the non-sexual touch they need in a safe environment with enthusiastic, consensual, and appropriate boundaries?

Cuddle Gatherings!

Are you feeling the lack of non-sexual touch in your life?

If so, then a Cuddle Gathering is the just the place for you!


Sunday, Oct 1st from 1 PM to 5:00 PM (PST) - Doors close at 1:30


Oak View, 10 minutes from Ventura. You will be emailed directions!


Doors open at 1 pm

1:00 - 1:30 cuddlers arrive, check in, and get into comfy attire

1:30 - 2:15 welcome circle (you must be present through the entire welcome circle to participate)

2:15 - 4:45 freestyle consent aware cuddling or socializing (that's 2.5 hours of cuddling!!)

4:45 - 5:00 closing circle and goodbyes


* hygiene is ultra-important. Be freshly showered and very clean.

* Your clothes stay on the whole time.

* You will never be compelled to cuddle, ever.

* You may only touch another with permission. You must state a specific request and receive a verbal YES.

* If you feel like a yes, say YES. If you feel like a no, say NO.

* If you feel like a maybe, say NO!

* You are encouraged to change your mind at any time, during any cuddle.

* End each cuddle when YOU are ready for it to end, not when you think your partner is ready.

* Respect your relationship agreements and communicate with your partner before participating in a cuddle.

* If you have a question, concern, or need assistance, get a facilitator.

* Tears and laughter are both welcome.

* Respect people's privacy when sharing about Cuddle Gatherings.

* No food or drink allowed in cuddle area.

* The kitchen/food area is a safe place where no cuddle requests are allowed.

Important Information for this Cuddle Gathering


Please be considerate about scents. We are going to be really close to others. Consider that before eating garlic (as an example), smoking, and wearing perfume. Many people are very sensitive or have allergies to scents and chemicals. It's called MCS (Multiple Chemical Sensitivity, it is a medical condition) and it is more common than ever before. We are in an enclosed space with a lot of people and scents can overpower the space quickly. Thank you for your understanding in this matter.


This location has both cats and dogs.


Please bring nesting items such as pillows, cushions, sleeping bags, mats, blankets, stuffed animals...whatever makes you more comfortable.

PJ's -

Rule #1 of Cuddle Gathering is clothes stay on the entire time, so wear comfortable clothes for cuddling, PJs or sweats are ideal. Think “more flannel, less lace”. Lose the underwire bras, if you like. You can change here if you need to. Also feel free to bring slippers or warm socks, if your toes are happier that way.


Snacks to share are welcome but not mandatory. I will have some finger foods and plenty of filtered water to drink. Bring an alternative to drink if you want something other than water. No alcohol, please!


I have limited space, and ticket sales will end once I have reached the max number of people. Tickets are non-refundable (I am holding a space for you, if you don't show that keeps someone else from attending).

Please contact me if finances prevent you from attending. I believe everyone should have access to a Cuddle Gathering and I always have a "Work Exchange" ticket available. (Help with setup, check in, cleanup, etc..)


PLEASE BE ON TIME Absolutely no admittance after the Gathering has begun, in this case 1:30pm. If you find you are running late, please call or text me at 805-258-8441. Doors open at 1pm. Be sure and arrive early to allow yourself time to change into your pajamas if you need to. You are, of course, free to leave at any time but everyone attending has to be there from the start so that we all have the same agreements and understandings. This creates a safe place where everyone hears the same rules and understands what is expected.

So those are the basics!

Here are some more details...What is a Cuddle Gathering?

A Cuddle gathering includes a 45 minute mini-workshop on consent, boundaries and communication followed by 2 1/2 hours of non-sexual cuddle time. You never have to cuddle with anyone you don't want to, ever. Cuddle Gatherings are a wonderful way to experience platonic touch in a controlled environment.

I am your facilitator! My job as a facilitator is to guide you into those skills gently and easily, in a fun, safe and light hearted way. I will welcome you and create an atmosphere of respect, and remain available for questions and support.

At a Cuddle Gathering you gain:

* Clarity and confidence

* Boundary and communication skills

* Comfort, support and encouragement

* The secrets to welcome, relaxed, non-sexual touch

* Possibly an Oxytocin boost (depending on if you cuddle).

Wiki on Oxytocin

Video on the benefits of Oxytocin.

The skills you learn at Cuddle Gathering translate into everyday life, right from the start. When boundaries and consent are clear, every relationship is easier.

Some people are already comfortable with touch and can’t wait to be in a place where that’s OK. Others are not even sure they want any touch at all, but come to explore some communication skills. Others are just curious about what it might be like. Whatever your reasons, a Cuddle Gathering is a great playground for discovering more about yourself, for exploring new ways of connecting with others, or simply enjoying a relaxing, cozy afternoon with other cuddly souls.

People of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship styles are welcome. :)

Parking is on premises.

Reach out to me if you have any questions (805)258-8441

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Oak View

The Ranch

Private home. Location emailed upon ticket purchase.

Oak View, CA 93022

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