This workshop—for couples at any stage of relationship, married or not—is based on The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, PhD. It is a live presentation, limited to twelve couples, led by Doug Burford, LPC— a trained Gottman 7 Principles Leader. The Saturday seminar imparts in practical, applicable ways the findings of Dr. Gottman's four decades of research on the habits and patterns of couples. His scientific, longitudinal studies at the University of Washington are without peer in their study of thousands of couples, measuring everything from verbal exchanges, to vital signs, to stress hormone levels, to conflict-recovery techniques. This has made Dr. Gottman the most-quoted author on marriage by other authors on marriage. Based on his team's research, The Gottman Institute has drawn solid conclusions on what makes relationships work. In fact, so reliable are Dr. Gottman's discoveries, that he can observe a married couple in conflict for five minutes and determine with over 91% accuracy whether they will divorce, if their interactive patterns remain unchanged.
If you’ve ever wondered why some couples thrive relationally while others dive, this seminar will provide answers. In a few hours, you will learn the six toxic patterns of "disaster couples" whose relationships end, and the seven patterns observed in "master couples" whose relationships last and thrive. As a couple, you will also engage in private couple exercises to help you apply the Principles to your relationship.
Couple registration includes two (2) complimentary copies of Dr. Gottman's book: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.
What recent attendees have said:
- "Thanks for the very informative session. I learned new 'tools' I can use to be a better communicator and partner."
- "The Love Maps and the antidotes to The Four Horsemen will be very helpful."
- "The best marriage seminar we've attended!"
- "The content was great, but the personal examples definitely made it relatable."
- "Overall, this is a 5 out of 5 stars! Thanks!"
- "I enjoyed experiencing this seminar with couples in all stages of life."
- "The environment was very comfortable."
- "A highlight for me was learning about conflict resolution in a safe, fair, and supportive way."
- "It wasn't 'gloom and doom' but rather positive."
- (I'm now) "...able to identify what the argument is really about, and identify how the other is processing things."
- "I enjoyed the real-life stories and hearing other couples."
- "Easy-to-follow and fun exercises to do together."
- "Great use of our time!!"
- "It was very pleasant to evaluate where my marriage is, where it is going, and how much fun it can be to go through this journey."
- "This has been a roadmap to get our relationship back on track."
- "I liked the conversation and being able to hear others' perspectives."
- "My eyes have been opened more fully to the perpetual vs. solvable problems in any relationship."
- "There are tons of difference makers you can use in making your marriage a great marriage."
- "I feel less doomed about our conflict; it's a validation that although we need help resolving it, we are not broken because we have it."
- "I enjoyed the mix of activities, videos, and discussion."
Must both partners attend?
Ideally, as couple exercises are part of the event.
Is the seminar only for married couples?
No, the material applies equally well to couples who are dating or engaged.
Will we share our struggles publicly?
No, couple exercises are done privately. Participation in group discussion is voluntary.
Do we have to read the book?
No, but learning is enhanced by the additional information provided in the book.
How many couples will be present?
The event is limited to twelve (12) couples.
Where can I contact the organizer?
Please email info@DougBurford.com or call (913) 642-2190.