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Constructive Conflict: Make a Long-Term Difference vs. Feel Better Short-Term

Ku'ikahi Mediation Center

Friday, January 18, 2019 from 8:30 AM to 12:30 PM (HST)

Constructive Conflict: Make a Long-Term Difference vs....

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Workshop Tuition Jan 18, 2019 $50.00 $0.00
Group Discount (for 3+ people)   more info Jan 18, 2019 $45.00 $0.00
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Make a Long-Term Difference vs. Feel Better Short-Term


"Sometimes it feels really satisfying to tell someone off.  Maybe it was hard to speak up at all, so it feels like a triumph to get it all out," says Kimberly.  "Or how about unfriending someone on social media when they make a racist or sexist remark?  It feels good to cut negativity from your life, right?"


In this workshop, learn the difference between conflict and abuse and how sometimes, in the name of "not taking abuse," we fail to take responsibility for communicating clearly, nurturing long-term relationships and community cohesion, and participating in conflict.  


Drawing on lessons from Sarah Schulman's book Conflict is Not Abuse, this workshop offers activities and practical strategies to:

  • Understand the difference between abuse, conflict, and resistance. 
  • Use communication skills to evolve meaning rather than just state your case. 
  • Understand how victim/perpetrator identities influence communication. 
  • Deescalate small conflicts. 
  • Understand how "supremacy ideology" influences us all and stands in the way of conflict resolution. 
  • Create a world where everyone (not just "victims") are eligible for compassion. 


Kimberly Dark consulted in conflict resolution and faciliation for over 20 years.  She completed her mediator certification with the National Conflict Resolution Center, served on the Advisory Board of San Diego Mediation Center Community Justice, and served as principal for Current Change Consulting, which specialized in community facilitation, training, and group conflict resolution.  A sociologist, she currently writes, teaches, and performs worldwide.  


Tuition is $50.  Group discounts and individual needs-based partial scholarships available.  Contact Majidah at 935-7844 x 3 or to pay with cash, check, or purchase order/invoice (for businesses only) or to request a scholarship application.


The "Communication & Collaboration" Training Series is made possible thanks in part to funding from the Atherton Family Foundation, County of Hawai'i Department of Research and Development, and Hawai'i Island United Way.

Have questions about Constructive Conflict: Make a Long-Term Difference vs. Feel Better Short-Term? Contact Ku'ikahi Mediation Center

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Hawai'i Innovation Center at Hilo
117 Keawe Street
Hilo, HI 96720

Friday, January 18, 2019 from 8:30 AM to 12:30 PM (HST)

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Ku'ikahi Mediation Center

We empower people to come together—to talk and to listen, to explore options, and to find their own best solutions.


To achieve this mission, we offer mediation, facilitation, and training to strengthen the ability of diverse individuals and groups to resolve interpersonal conflicts and community issues.


Ku'ikahi Mediaiton Center
101 Aupuni Street, Suite PH 1014 B-2
Hilo, HI 96720
Phone: (808) 935-7844
Fax: (808) 961-9727

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