Caring for the Caregiver - Session #1 Being the Caregiver

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Black Plum Center

Chichester, NY 12416

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Illness and end of life can be the most difficult times in our lives.

The Black Plum Center is a place to explore this strange and life-changing journey together. “Caring for the Caregiver” is a multi-denominational program created for the benefit of all caregivers who struggle each day to navigate the inevitable challenges of being there for others while also taking care of themselves.

As a Chaplain, Zen Priest, and teacher of chaplains, Rev Trudi Hirsch has participated in the lives of thousands of patients, families, friends, and partners who are facing serious illness and end of life. Rev Hirsch has observed how unprepared most of us are for navigating either the practical challenges or the emotional waves that follow the death of the one being cared for.

Caregiving is an art that can be learned. We might find ourselves in the position of caregiver by desire or called to it by the need of the moment. Either way, caring for oneself in the process can be neglected, which often leads to exhaustion and health problems as well as emotional instability. As we learn to care for ourselves we are better able to be there for others.

The three sessions that make up “Caring for the Caregiver” is a good place to begin for anyone interested in pursuing the path of becoming a Chaplain.

These workshops are not designed for comfort and entertainment, but as focused work for personal growth. Those willing to explore the issues that arise in themselves and in others are welcome to join this supportive and caring program.

Session #1 Overview: “Being the Caregiver”

  • Provides progressive steps toward learning the art of the Caregiver.

  • Develop listening and observational skills. Learn to recognize the feelings under the content of what is being spoken.

  • Look at the fears we carry within us, for ourselves as well as others.

  • The art of intimacy and making a connection with others.

  • Learn why we need to support the defenses that arise in the other rather than giving advice. Joining those who suffer rather than trying to change the situation.

  • How to deal with fear, stress and worry, getting stuck, family systems, sacrificing oneself for another, enabling, joining, guilt, shame, helplessness, burden of responsibility, secrets, triangulating, self-care, etc.

  • Role plays, pairing and one-on-one counseling.

  • Includes writing exercises, readings, and other practical tools for helping you care for yourself and others.


9:30-9:45 Greetings/intro and synopsis of the day. Tea and coffee provided.

9:45-10:30 Guided relaxation, breathing and meditation. Will sometimes include tension release stretching, visualizations, and contemplation.

10:30-12:30 Educational and exploratory part of day. Teaching according to the theme of the day.

12:30-1:30 “Lunch and Learn”-- each Saturday incorporates a specific teaching during lunch. A simple gluten-free lunch is provided.

1:30-4:00 Fleshing out what you've learned. Pairing and small group process.

4:00-4:45 Reviewing questions and exploring unresolved issues specific to the day.

4:45-5:00 Unwinding together. Tea and coffee provided.

5:00-5:30 Guided relaxation, breathing, meditation.

This program will be co-facilitated by Wendy Drolma

To sign up for all three dates you can use the "Register" button above. Please dress comfortably, arrive early, and be ready to participate at start time. Door opens at 9:15am.

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Until 30 days prior to scheduled event cancellation will result in a full refund.

No refunds will be issued on cancellations after that.

Monthly Support

Throughout the year we focus on self-care by making available a series of experiential workshops. These workshops are offered to give you alternative ways to care for yourself. For more information on the workshops below, dates and times, and to sign up online please use links provided.

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