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Dialogue Questions and Resources for Group Discussion - March 28, 2013
Faciliated by Jean Chuang Menges, L.Ac., AdvCBP
Pre- and Perinatal Experiences for Health and Healing
By Kate White, M.A., L.M.T., and Myrna Martin, M.N., R.C.C. RCST
Pathways Issue #36, page 10
- This article represents one of our favorite things to do at Pathways: trot out the trail-blazing science that just hasn’t made it into the mainstream world yet, but hey, why wait 30 years for that to happen? Our kids will be grown and we will have missed all of this great information! Before beginning this discussion, take a moment to check in with the group to make sure there is a collective agreement to leave guilt and shame behind. Science is fun and we love it, but its insights are for our illumination, not self-flagellation!
- If “researchers can effectively predict with 85 percent accuracy which attachment style a parent will develop with her child, based on how she was treated as a child and how she has since come to terms with it” does this mean we are just our programming? Conscious parenting means becoming aware that you do have your own programming but don’t necessarily have to stay unconscious to its influence in your life. Do you think the 15 percent of parents that aren’t predictable could be attachment/conscious parents trying to break cycles and lay down foundations for new, healthier patterns?
- “Parents help their child develop self-regulation by being well-regulated themselves, being able to name and be with their own emotions, and to help their babies and children do the same.” How does this understanding take the attention off of the child’s behavior and put it onto the adult’s behavior and ability to self-regulate?
- It would be easy to reaction unconsciously to the insights of prenatal science and become paralyzed by all of the possible things that “could go wrong”… or we could do as the authors suggest and consciously realize that, “Life is unpredictable and mostly not in our control, but we can do our best to positively influence the outcome. Metaphorically, we can chart our course like a sailor consulting the starry sky.” The authors also say that “everything can be healed” whether in our children or in ourselves. How do these statements reflect a holistic trust and belief in the innate intelligence of life?
- The authors say that as pre- and perinatal science becomes more recognized and accepted, the understanding of the need to support families will also become more accepted. Take a moment to look at the side bars in this article to discover practical ways that families can support themselves now, without waiting for a cultural shift in awareness or action. Do you see possibilities for family support in your local community reflected in those lists?
Association for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Health: APPPAH illuminates the life-long impact of conception, pregnancy and birth on babies, families and society. APPPAH's mission is to educate professionals and the public about, and advocate for, the life-changing discoveries made in the area of prenatal and perinatal psychology and health.
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