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Grokking - creating Intimacy with Questions

Michael McDonald, Integrity Coach

Saturday, April 27, 2013 from 1:00 PM to 5:30 PM (PDT)

Grokking - creating Intimacy with Questions

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If you are not absolutely fascinated by the person in front of you,
then you're not paying attention.
- Michael McDonald

Saturday, April 27
1:00 - 5:30pm
doors at 12:30pm, starting at 1:00pm

Church of Soul
1550 5th St, Oakland
(next to West Oakland BART station)

$45 each, or $40 each for groups of 2 or more

     To 'dig', the word, the very word means not merely to appreciate but to penetrate,
     to go to the heart of the matter and to penetrate the moment.
     - Alan Watts

Have you ever been on a date that felt like a job interview? Have you ever been drawn to someone, but somehow when you talk to them you fail to connect? Have you ever been bored in a crowd?

Have you ever had a conversation that lasted for hours, effortlessly? Have you ever asked someone a question that instantly had them blossom before your eyes? Have you ever had a brief conversation with a stranger where they feel so seen that all they can say in response is "Who *are* you?"


This workshop picks up where most Community Nights leave off: the Questions exercise, which is often everyone's favorite exercise and the culmination of the evening. And now we are delving deeper, using Relational Alchemy to turn the seemingly mundane world of asking and answering questions into an opportunity to create more intimacy.

By the end of this workshop I intend for you to have everything you need to become a conversational ninja, capable of creating connection and intimacy with anyone, anytime, by leveraging two of my teaching superpowers:

1. Distinctions
    Simple and clear memes, so that you still remember the important bits a year later.

2. Experience
    Less theory, more practice; ala Community Nights.

Some teasers:

  • What is the difference between an authentic question, an intimate question, and a relational question?
  • What are some of the 'anti-patterns' in conversations which block intimacy? (Yes, I even hear people committing these relational sins in Community Nights.)
  • What skills can you leverage as the answerer of questions to create more intimacy?
  • How can judgements be used to create intimacy instead of block intimacy?

In case you haven't heard it before, the term 'grokking' comes from the novel Stranger in a Strange Land:

     To understand profoundly through intuition or empathy.

     Grok means to understand so thoroughly that the observer
     becomes a part of the observed—to merge, blend, intermarry,
     lose identity in group experience.

Have questions about Grokking - creating Intimacy with Questions? Contact Michael McDonald, Integrity Coach

When & Where

Church of Soul
1550 5th St
Oakland, CA 94607

Saturday, April 27, 2013 from 1:00 PM to 5:30 PM (PDT)

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Michael McDonald, Integrity Coach

Michael is an Integrity Coach, writer, speaker, workshop leader, and the creator of Relational Alchemy. He has led over 40 workshops in the last 3 years, helping to bring more conscious relating into the world and helping conscious entrepreneurs find and pursue their true work in the world.

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