Deepening Men’s Relationships
A Conference for Men and Women about Men’s Relationships
Saturday, March 17, 2012 – 8:30 AM – 4:30 PM
Widener University, Chester, PA, Latham Hall
This conference will focus on the importance of emotional intimacy in men’s lives. We will address the challenges men face, as well as approaches to working with men in ways that can enhance their relationships with other men, as well as women, and their experiences as fathers, sons and partners. The conference will be valuable for those who have personal as well as professional interests in men’s lives.
Featured speaker will be Hank Mandel, MSW, Co-producer of the documentary, Five Friends: No Man Can Make the Journey Alone; featured film at the Bryn Mawr Film Institute, March 14th at 7:30 pm (http://www.brynmawrfilm.org/films/?id=473).
Conference Planners: Rob Garfield, MD; Robert Heasley, CMFT, PhD; Jake Kriger, MSS, Isaac Garfield, MSS
Registration fee: $95. Students: $75. Social Work, APA & AASECT CEU’s available for $25 additional. A box lunch will be provided.
For further information, contact Dr. Robert Heasley: 484-362-9453 or by email at Heasley@buildingbridgesmedia.com
Co-Sponsored by - Widener University’s Women & Gender Studies, Center for Social Work Education, Graduate Programs in Human Sexuality, and Institute for Graduate Clinical Psychology.
Our culture has historically created a model of masculinity that emphasizes independence and competition, while too often dismissing the importance of emotional intelligence and emotional intimacy in the lives of boys and men. For many males this means denying the qualities that are essential in men’s close relationships: ability to be vulnerable, express feelings, and to process concerns and inner struggles. This can affect every aspect of men’s lives – including men’s mental and physical health, aspirations, sexuality, parenting and everyday relationships.
Presentation in the morning plenary will introduce a range of topics related to challenges in men’s lives. Afternoon breakout sessions will address specific topics that are important in working with (or being) men:
§ Raising Emotionally Intelligent Boys: Parental, Educational & Clinical Awareness - Robert Heasley, Ph.D.
§ Men in Therapy & Therapeutic Men’s Groups – Robert Garfield, M.D. & Jake Kriger, MSS
§ Men’s Friendships and the Journey Toward Intimacy – Hank Mandel, MSW
§ Helping Men and Women with Complexities of Changing Gendered Relationships – Betsy Crane, Ph.D.
§ Mindfulness and Men’s Sexuality: Creating Opportunities for a New Discourse and Experience of Sexuality – Isaac Garfield, MSS, LSW & Robert Heasley, CMFT, Ph.D.
§ Sexually Abused Males and Recovery – Ted Glackman, M.Ed. & Hank Mandel, MSW
About the Workshops
Session I: 1:00 – 2:30
Men in Therapy and Therapeutic Men’s Groups, Rob Garfield, M.D. & Jake Kriger, MSS
Males in our culture often have trouble adapting to traditional psychotherapy approaches. Social values that define normative masculine behavior often run into conflict with those of psychotherapy which promotes emotional intimacy behaviors in relationships. This workshop describes how therapeutic men’s groups, or Friendship Labs, can help normalize and teach emotional intimacy skills for men. These techniques can also be utilized to help men better engage in individual and couples therapy. We routinely collaborate with individual and couples therapists to help men develop stronger bonds in their marriage and parenting relationships.
Men’s Friendships and the Journey Toward Intimacy – Hank Mandel, MSW
The participants of this workshop will view and discuss the ground breaking documentary "Five Friends: No man can make the journey alone”, and share a facilitated reflection on the film’s content and messages about quality male relationships which have existed between 10 and 40 years. The film highlights close relationships between men across differences business, inter-racial, sports, collaborative, creative and conflict oriented close male relationships.
Raising Emotionally Intelligent Boys: Parental, Educational & Clinical Awareness – Robert Heasley, Ph.D.
The journey through boyhood in the U.S. can be challenging when it comes to gaining emotional intelligence, capacities for intimacy, and entering into the teen and adult years with the tools to navigate through a range of mixed messages about masculinity. The workshop focuses on identifying the challenges of boyhood and more importantly, how parents and providers can meet the needs of boys in gaining a strong sense of self, and the capacity for having, and holding onto, emotionally close and intimate relationships throughout their lives.
Session II: 2:45-4:15
Mindfulness and Men’s Sexuality: Creating Opportunities for a New Discourse and Experience of Sexuality – Robert Heasley, CMFT, Ph.D. & Isaac Garfield, MSS, LSW
Males receive confusing message about sexuality that includes ways of thinking and talking about sex, as well as having sexual relations, that often limits men’s ability to experience mindful and emotional connection. Moving from the limitations of sex as mechanical to embracing the sensual/emotional can be a challenge. This workshop, designed for men and women, will provide suggestions to help men shift the discourse and experience of sexuality from performance to mindfulness, from mechanical to emotionally supportive interactions and intimacy.
Helping Men and Women with the Complexities of Changing Gendered Relationships – Betsy Crane, Ph.D.
How did we get the traditional roles and expectations we have for boys and men? How are they reinforced by both men and women, even as roles and expectations are broadening for women? How can our histories and experiences of gendered relationships influence what we come to expect (and do) with clients, with raising children, and with ourselves? What are the implications for our work with couples? This workshop will help participants make sense out of all this and think about the implications for personal lives as well as helping relationships.
Sexually Abused Males and Recovery – Ted Glackman, M.Ed. & Hank Mandel, MSW
This session will address issues related to men's sexual abuse recovery and implications for those working with males who have experienced abuse. The session will provide information about victimization patterns and recovery pathways and more recently developed models of treatments, and include first-person experiences both in working with men as well as reflections on the personal journey of recovery.
About the presenters
Betsy Crane, Ph.D., is Professor and Director of Graduate Programs in Human Sexuality at Widener University, Chester, PA. Her MA is in Communications with a concentration in Mental Health Education. Betsy received her doctorate from Cornell University in the field of Human Service Studies. Her research interests include the history of gendered sexuality and the current shifts in gender, gender relationships, and sexual identities of young people. Publications include: The Four Boxes of Gendered Sexuality (in Heasley, R. and Crane, B. Sexual Lives, McGraw-Hill, 2003), and Should I Open the Door for Her or Not? (Under review).
Rob Garfield, M.D., is a psychiatrist and family therapist in private practice in Bala Cynwyd, PA. He teaches in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Pennsylvania. Rob has practiced and taught systems-oriented therapy and deeply explored men’s issues, male emotional intimacy and the dilemmas men face in engaging in traditional psychotherapy. He has developed therapeutic men’s groups called Friendship Labs, which help men develop emotional skills while also addressing concerns and myths about close male friendships. He is currently conducting research and writing a how-to book on men’s friendships.
Isaac Garfield, MSS, LMSW, is a licensed social worker currently working as a family based therapist. He has a private practice where he sees children and adults. His work in the field of men’s studies includes the development of a study on emotional intimacy in young men’s friendships. He is part of a research team that is expanding the study to include older male populations. In addition, he is the founder of the Male Social Work Network for the Pennsylvania Society for Clinical Social Work.
Ted Glackman, M.Ed., did his graduate work at Temple University. He is a licensed psychologist with over 30 years of clinical experience working with men, boys, and families. Ted is the Executive Director of the Joseph J. Peters Institute in Philadelphia, an agency that responds to sexual abuse issues. He is a board member of the Pennsylvania Prison Society, leading a public policy group related to legislative responses to those who commit sexual offenses. In his private practice, Ted leads men's groups. He has also been a participant in a leaderless peer men's group for the past twelve years.
Robert Heasley, CFMT, Ph.D., is president of the American Men’s Studies Association, and professor of sociology at Indiana University of Pennsylvania where he teaches courses in sexuality and men/masculinities. Robert has a private therapy practice at Building Bridges in Media, PA and is on the adjunct faculty at both Widener University’s Program in Human Sexuality and the Department of Psychiatry at the SUNY Upstate Medical University. He is co-producer of Shifting Gears: Finding Intimacy in Men’s Friendships, a photo-narrative project and co-editor with Betsy Crane of Sexual Lives (Heasley & Crane, McGraw-Hill, 2003).
Jake Kriger, MSS is in private practice in Bala Cynwyd, PA and has run therapeutic men’s groups for the past 18 years. He also has led groups for fathers that focus on parenting issues. He has previously presented on male friendship and intimacy at the 2011 conference of the American Men’s Studies Association AMSA conference. He practices what he preaches. Jake and his best friend meet twice weekly, for exercise and lunch to maintain their deep connection.
Hank Mandel, MSW, is Producer & Collaborator on the film Five Friends. He has a passion for family, people, relationships, animals, the New York Yankees and Giants and work. An eclectic career that includes; Associate Professor, Yale University School of Medicine; Private Therapist for families, individuals & couples; Producer & Director for the Country Music Association; owner of a marketing & human resources consulting firm, Executive Officer at a bank and Executive Director of a foundation. He holds an MSW from School of Social Work at Rutgers University. Hank notes: “Due to my Dyslexia, in 1963 the principal of my high school told me that I should ‘aspire to own a gas station.’ I have not achieved this goal to date.”